Don’t forget to smile. An obvious one, but a key one. Entering the room looking nervous, anxious or worrisome will send the message that you’re a nervous person. It’s okay to be nervous in an interview, but that doesn’t stop you from being warm and friendly. Remember to smile, just not too much so you look like a nutter.
Look them in the eye. Eye contact is about building rapport and connecting with people. Without it there’s no connection, so be sure to look your interviewers in the eye as the interview progresses. Don’t stare fixedly at your interviewer like a wired Will Ferrell, this isn’t a Saturday Night Live skit.
Don’t shake hands like a trout. There’s nothing worse than greeting someone with a handshake only to feel like they’re pressing a tepid trout into your hand, and I’m still amazed at how many wet-fish handshakes I get when I meet people. Smile, make eye contact and give a firm 2 second handshake with a simple ‘Good to meet you’.
Know what to wear. I’ve got jobs from interviews where I’ve worn tshirt and jeans, because that’s what was appropriate to the environment I was interviewing for. That’s the point – you need to be dressed appropriately to the environment in which you hope to be working. Go for an interview in banking dressed in tshirt and jeans and you won’t stand a chance, wear the same to an ad agency and you’ll fit right in.
Don’t forget their names. Please, please, please remember the names of the people interviewing you. It allows you to put them into conversation where appropriate, and I’m not talking every sentence (that’ll make you sound like Hannibal Lecter). It allows you to refer back to a previous comment (e.g. “As Mandy said earlier…”), to buy yourself time with a tricky question (e.g. “That’s a good question Randy…”) or to use it as a sign-off at the end of the interview (e.g. “Thanks for your time Brandy”). The interviewers name doesn’t have to rhyme with ‘Andy’.
Don’t let your body language scream ‘Danger’. If your shoulders are hunched, you’re slouched in your seat, you’re wringing your hands or continually scratching your head you’ll be sending the wrong message. Having a relaxed but confident body language communicates a relaxed and confident individual. Don’t be rigid – you’re free to move in your seat and use your hands to demonstrate key points, just watch you’re not waving your arms around like you’re swiping away fruit flies. A balance between sitting back in your chair and sitting forwards is good – you can give emphasis to points and show you’re listening by sitting forwards, and communicate a sense of ease by sitting back.
Leave your shit outside. Interviews can be scary and often you don’t know what to expect. Don’t bring that uncertainty and doubt into the room with you and certainly don’t bring in any personal problems that might be bothering you, put that all to one side before the interview starts. Picture the interview room as a safe place with people who want you to get the job, and remember that the interviewers want to see the best of you, not the worst. They’re on your side.
Don’t jump into the first chair you see. Don’t enter the room and grab the first chair you see – it’s not a competition. Move into the room and let the interviewer find their place first. If you’re in a meeting room don’t sit next to them on the same side of the table, and don’t automatically sit directly opposite them. Try to sit diagonally from them if possible – it gives provides a good space between you but doesn’t act like a wall.
Pace yourself. Rapport building is about building a connection and a rhythm between you and another person, a rhythm that allows both of you to communicate openly. Many of the things I’ve already mentioned help build that rapport, but pace is one of the most important. If you go racing off at 100 miles an hour, telling them everything about you when they’ve only asked you if you found the building with out any problems, then you’ve screwed the pace up and they’ll be wanting to get you out of the room as quickly as possible. Let them set the pace and follow it.
Friday, September 24, 2010
Sunday, August 15, 2010
POWER OF POSITIVE ATTITUDE
The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes
Why develop a positive attitude?
There is an awakening in the corporate world of the importance of a positive mental attitude. Customers are lost, friction and conflicts occur, stress increases, employees report sick, performance at work gets affected, productivity goes down – all due to a negative mental attitude.
Why develop a positive attitude?
There is an awakening in the corporate world of the importance of a positive mental attitude. Customers are lost, friction and conflicts occur, stress increases, employees report sick, performance at work gets affected, productivity goes down – all due to a negative mental attitude.
Friday, August 13, 2010
DRESSING FOR THE INTERVIEW
Wear clothing that indicates you are ready to go to work today.
Men and Women
All clothes should be neatly pressed.
Conservative two-piece business suite (solid dark blue or gray is best)
Conservative long-sleeved shirt/blouse (white is best, pastel is next best)
Clean, polished, conservative shoes
Clean and well-groomed hairstyle
Clean, trimmed fingernails
Minimal cologne or perfume
Empty pockets – no noisy coins
No gum, candy or cigarettes
Men
Necktie should be silk with a conservative pattern
Dark shoes (black lace-ups are best); clean and polished
Dark socks (black is best)
Short hair always fairs best in interviews
No beards – mustaches are acceptable (keep neat and trimmed)
No earrings
No heavy cologne
Women
Always wear a suit with a jacket; or a sheath dress with a jacket
Do not wear extremely high-heeled or platform shoes
Do not wear open-toe shoes or mules (they are more casual)
Conservative hosiery at or near skin color (and no runs!)
If you wear nail polish (not required), use clear or a conservative color
One set of earrings only
Conservative makeup
No heavy perfume
No heavy cologne
Men and Women
All clothes should be neatly pressed.
Conservative two-piece business suite (solid dark blue or gray is best)
Conservative long-sleeved shirt/blouse (white is best, pastel is next best)
Clean, polished, conservative shoes
Clean and well-groomed hairstyle
Clean, trimmed fingernails
Minimal cologne or perfume
Empty pockets – no noisy coins
No gum, candy or cigarettes
Men
Necktie should be silk with a conservative pattern
Dark shoes (black lace-ups are best); clean and polished
Dark socks (black is best)
Short hair always fairs best in interviews
No beards – mustaches are acceptable (keep neat and trimmed)
No earrings
No heavy cologne
Women
Always wear a suit with a jacket; or a sheath dress with a jacket
Do not wear extremely high-heeled or platform shoes
Do not wear open-toe shoes or mules (they are more casual)
Conservative hosiery at or near skin color (and no runs!)
If you wear nail polish (not required), use clear or a conservative color
One set of earrings only
Conservative makeup
No heavy perfume
No heavy cologne
INTERVIEWING
The job interview is your chance to impress the interviewer with your skills and confidence. These few simple steps can help you prepare.
Before the Interview
Review the job duties included in the Vacancy Notice.
Research the department.
Dress professionally. Don’t wear perfume or cologne.
Bring extra copies of your resume.
Bring a pen and paper to write down any information you might need to remember.
Prepare a few questions to ask the interviewer.
Prepare answers to any questions you think you might be asked (see sample questions below).
At the Interview
Arrive on time. Try to be a few minutes early if possible.
Try to relax. Be yourself.
Show self-confidence – make eye contact; answer questions in a clear voice.
Remember to listen.
Think before answering questions. Try to make your answers as clear as possible.
Avoid negative body language – crossing your arms, swinging your foot or leg, slouching, covering your mouth while speaking.
When given a chance, ask any questions that you have prepared in advance. You can also follow up on anything that the interviewer tells you during the interview.
After the Interview
End the interview with a handshake and thank the interviewer for his or her time.
Find out when the department plans to make a hiring decision.
Follow up with a short “thank you for the interview” note.
Common Interview Questions
Tell me about yourself.
Tell me what interested you in this job.
Why did you leave your last job?
What are some of your strengths?
What are some of your weaknesses?
Describe your workstyle. Do you prefer to work by yourself or with others?
What are your career plans? Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
What supervisory experience have you had?
Tell me about your favorite supervisor.
Why should I hire you?
Questions for an Applicant to ask in the Interview
What level of responsibility can I expect in this position?
Why is this job available?
What training programs do you have for new employees?
Is there a typical career path for a person in this position?
How are employees evaluated?
Do you like working here?
Tell me about a typical day in this department.
Before the Interview
Review the job duties included in the Vacancy Notice.
Research the department.
Dress professionally. Don’t wear perfume or cologne.
Bring extra copies of your resume.
Bring a pen and paper to write down any information you might need to remember.
Prepare a few questions to ask the interviewer.
Prepare answers to any questions you think you might be asked (see sample questions below).
At the Interview
Arrive on time. Try to be a few minutes early if possible.
Try to relax. Be yourself.
Show self-confidence – make eye contact; answer questions in a clear voice.
Remember to listen.
Think before answering questions. Try to make your answers as clear as possible.
Avoid negative body language – crossing your arms, swinging your foot or leg, slouching, covering your mouth while speaking.
When given a chance, ask any questions that you have prepared in advance. You can also follow up on anything that the interviewer tells you during the interview.
After the Interview
End the interview with a handshake and thank the interviewer for his or her time.
Find out when the department plans to make a hiring decision.
Follow up with a short “thank you for the interview” note.
Common Interview Questions
Tell me about yourself.
Tell me what interested you in this job.
Why did you leave your last job?
What are some of your strengths?
What are some of your weaknesses?
Describe your workstyle. Do you prefer to work by yourself or with others?
What are your career plans? Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
What supervisory experience have you had?
Tell me about your favorite supervisor.
Why should I hire you?
Questions for an Applicant to ask in the Interview
What level of responsibility can I expect in this position?
Why is this job available?
What training programs do you have for new employees?
Is there a typical career path for a person in this position?
How are employees evaluated?
Do you like working here?
Tell me about a typical day in this department.
Resume, Cover Letter & Interviewing Tips
Why should I use a resume along with my application?
A resume can help Human Resource Services staff and the hiring supervisor understand what skills, experience, and education you have that are relevant to a job. A well-done resume makes your application look more professional. You can use a resume to help demonstrate your communication skills.
What should I include in my resume?
Use your resume to help target your job search. Include relevant job history, education, volunteer experience, and memberships/associations. Use your resume to highlight important work experience and skills. Do not include information regarding marital status, parental status, religious affiliation, photos, age, or weight.
Resume Language
Use action verbs such as “developed,” “managed,” “coordinated,” and “maintained.”
Don’t use “I” to start every sentence.
Do use your own words to explain your experience
Proofread carefully!
Resume Information
Keep your name, phone number and address current.
Include dates of employment in a month/year format (example: 05/02 – 08/02).
Include references. Use a separate sheet if necessary.
Resume Appearance
Use 1” margins on all sides.
Use a standard font that is easy to read.
Use bold font and italics to highlight information.
Make sure to leave some white space in between sections.
Don’t label your resume. The title “Resume” is unnecessary.
Your resume can be longer than 1 page. A good rule of thumb is 1 page for each 10 years of work history.
COVER LETTERS
Why should I include a cover letter along with my application?A cover letter can be a helpful tool to highlight your skills. Use a cover letter to show how your skills are appropriate for the job. A cover letter can also be used as a marketing tool – think of it as your personal sales brochure! You should use a cover letter anytime you use a resume.
Can I use one standard cover letter on each of my applications?You will need to submit a separate cover letter with each set of application materials. Since the cover letter is a way to help interest employers in your skills and how they are suited to the particular job, it is a good idea to customize your cover letter for each position that you are applying for.
What information do I include in my cover letter?
Identify the job for which you are applying. Include the title and vacancy number.
Mention where you found out about the job (newspaper ad, web page, etc.). If you were referred by someone, mention that person.
Briefly highlight your skills and experience. Don’t include all of the information found on your resume.
Tell the hiring supervisor what he/she will gain by hiring you.
Close the letter by stating what you would like to happen next. Mention where you can be reached by phone or email.
What format do I use?Your cover letter should be in standard business letter format.
Should I include a cover letter if I submit my materials through email?Yes.
A resume can help Human Resource Services staff and the hiring supervisor understand what skills, experience, and education you have that are relevant to a job. A well-done resume makes your application look more professional. You can use a resume to help demonstrate your communication skills.
What should I include in my resume?
Use your resume to help target your job search. Include relevant job history, education, volunteer experience, and memberships/associations. Use your resume to highlight important work experience and skills. Do not include information regarding marital status, parental status, religious affiliation, photos, age, or weight.
Resume Language
Use action verbs such as “developed,” “managed,” “coordinated,” and “maintained.”
Don’t use “I” to start every sentence.
Do use your own words to explain your experience
Proofread carefully!
Resume Information
Keep your name, phone number and address current.
Include dates of employment in a month/year format (example: 05/02 – 08/02).
Include references. Use a separate sheet if necessary.
Resume Appearance
Use 1” margins on all sides.
Use a standard font that is easy to read.
Use bold font and italics to highlight information.
Make sure to leave some white space in between sections.
Don’t label your resume. The title “Resume” is unnecessary.
Your resume can be longer than 1 page. A good rule of thumb is 1 page for each 10 years of work history.
COVER LETTERS
Why should I include a cover letter along with my application?A cover letter can be a helpful tool to highlight your skills. Use a cover letter to show how your skills are appropriate for the job. A cover letter can also be used as a marketing tool – think of it as your personal sales brochure! You should use a cover letter anytime you use a resume.
Can I use one standard cover letter on each of my applications?You will need to submit a separate cover letter with each set of application materials. Since the cover letter is a way to help interest employers in your skills and how they are suited to the particular job, it is a good idea to customize your cover letter for each position that you are applying for.
What information do I include in my cover letter?
Identify the job for which you are applying. Include the title and vacancy number.
Mention where you found out about the job (newspaper ad, web page, etc.). If you were referred by someone, mention that person.
Briefly highlight your skills and experience. Don’t include all of the information found on your resume.
Tell the hiring supervisor what he/she will gain by hiring you.
Close the letter by stating what you would like to happen next. Mention where you can be reached by phone or email.
What format do I use?Your cover letter should be in standard business letter format.
Should I include a cover letter if I submit my materials through email?Yes.
25 things to avoid in an Interview
1.Poor personal appearance
2.Lack of interest and enthusiasm; passive and indifferent
3.Over-emphasis on money
4.Criticism of past employer
5.Poor eye contact with interviewer
6.Late to interview
7.Failure to express appreciation for interviewer’s time
8.Asks no questions about the job
9.Unwillingness to relocate
10.Indefinite answer to question
11.Overbearing, aggressive, conceited with ‘know-it-all’ complex
12.Inability to express self clearly; poor voice, poor diction, poor grammar
13.Lack of planning for career, no purpose or goals
14.Lack of confidence and poise, nervous, ill at ease
15.Failure to participate in activities
16.Expects too much too soon
17.Makes excuses, evasive, hedges on unfavourable factors on record
18.Lack of tact
19.Lack of courtesy, ill-mannered
20.Lack of vitality
21.Lack of maturity
22.Sloppy application form
23.No interest in company or industry
24.Cynical
25.Intolerant, strong prejudices
2.Lack of interest and enthusiasm; passive and indifferent
3.Over-emphasis on money
4.Criticism of past employer
5.Poor eye contact with interviewer
6.Late to interview
7.Failure to express appreciation for interviewer’s time
8.Asks no questions about the job
9.Unwillingness to relocate
10.Indefinite answer to question
11.Overbearing, aggressive, conceited with ‘know-it-all’ complex
12.Inability to express self clearly; poor voice, poor diction, poor grammar
13.Lack of planning for career, no purpose or goals
14.Lack of confidence and poise, nervous, ill at ease
15.Failure to participate in activities
16.Expects too much too soon
17.Makes excuses, evasive, hedges on unfavourable factors on record
18.Lack of tact
19.Lack of courtesy, ill-mannered
20.Lack of vitality
21.Lack of maturity
22.Sloppy application form
23.No interest in company or industry
24.Cynical
25.Intolerant, strong prejudices
Frequently Asked Job Interview Questions and Answers
Tell me about yourself?
Although your first instinct might be to start by describing your interests and hobbies, remember where you are. You are in a job interview with the sole purpose of being hired. The information that you should detail when asked this question is to begin by describing yourself in a work situation. Prepare a summary of your work experience as well as your career achievements. Briefly detail your education accomplishments as well as any other accomplishment or transferrable skills that are relevant to the job vacancy. Only once you have discussed information that is specific to the available position, should you then give a short explanation about your interests and character traits.
Describe your working experience?
Study your CV prior to your job interview and indentify areas of your work experience that is specifically relevant to the job that you are being interviewed for. Be sure to scrutinise the job advert as this will guide your answer and provide you with clues on what exactly the recruiter is looking for in a candidate. Your answer should be concise and relevant; the recruiter has already seen your Curriculum Vitae and already has a good idea of your experience. Try to get the recruiter to specify what areas they would like you to discuss so as to avoid digressing off the topic with long winded explanations. The reason why the recruiter is asking this question even after having seen your CV application is because they want to hear how you would describe your experience verbally and to ensure that your verbal explanation is consistent with the information detailed in your CV.
What are your strengths and weaknesses?
Although this question may seem as though you should answer with a positive answer for your strengths and a negative for your weaknesses, try to give two positive answers. When discussing your strengths highlight roughly three positive attributes or strengths that specifically apply to the available post based on what you consider to be the recruiter's specific requirements. When indicating your weaknesses, never detail a character defect or poor performance areas that have no opportunity to be improved on. Rather, try to explain where you identified a problem area where you were able to remedy this and explain how you did so.
What do you know about our company and why do you want to work here?
You will need to prepare for this typical job interview question far in advance in order to ensure that you are comfortable discussing the employers company. Don't be a know it all, you are talking with someone who may have been part of the company for several years and will know greater detail that you will. Never argue about details and be open to correction should you have interpreted research information incorrectly. When answering the reason for you wanting to join their establishment specify what interests you about the industry or company and how you feel you could contribute to its longevity. Express admiration and respect for the company and include an explanation as to what value you feel you will be able to bring to the company that other candidates may not be able to. Try to get a good understanding of the company's objective as well as their vision and mission and how you plan on sustaining this or improving on it, based on your relevant skills and attributes.
Describe a short term goal you have set for yourself and how you intend on achieving this goal?
A short term goal generally falls within a one to two year delivery period. The goals that you describe should be career focussed, based on areas where you would like to improve on a skill or achieve a qualification that will boost your career growth. When answering to how you intend on achieving these goals to the employer, never leave a door closed. Opportunity and drive is your number one objective in order to achieve any goal and this is why your explanation needs to be realistic and attainable within this short period. By displaying your enthusiasm and desire to succeed, this will indicate to the employer that you are a motivated and inspired employee.
Where do you see yourself in five years?
When answering this typical job interview question stay focussed on career goals and aspirations. Potential employers don't want to hear about your plans to 'Take over their company' nor your desire to become a pro golfer. Keep these career aspirations realistic and attainable within a 5 year period. Discuss ways in which you anticipate attaining your career goals as well as steps you have already taken to reach these career goals.
What are you looking for in a job?
This may seem like an easy common interview question to answer, it is in fact a tricky job interview question. While the interviewer is asking you what you are looking for in a job, in actual fact they want you to answer with what they are looking for from you. Again when preparing for this question, be sure to have the job ad close at hand in order to assess in precise detail what the recruiter is looking for in a candidate. Answer this question the way you think the interviewer wants you to answer it, by describing desires that the job you have applied for will be able to deliver to the candidate.
What are your salary requirements?
Prepare ahead of time prior to your job interview on how you intend on answering this question. A good place to start is to research the industry standard or market related salary that employees in similar roles are earning. Generally this information can be found on the internet or alternatively recruitment agents will be able to give you a good indication of your market related salary. In your interview, try not to discuss exact figures but rather give a ball park figure that you will be able to negotiate on later on should the employer makes you an offer. Never discuss your salary goals unless asked by the interviewer.
Although your first instinct might be to start by describing your interests and hobbies, remember where you are. You are in a job interview with the sole purpose of being hired. The information that you should detail when asked this question is to begin by describing yourself in a work situation. Prepare a summary of your work experience as well as your career achievements. Briefly detail your education accomplishments as well as any other accomplishment or transferrable skills that are relevant to the job vacancy. Only once you have discussed information that is specific to the available position, should you then give a short explanation about your interests and character traits.
Describe your working experience?
Study your CV prior to your job interview and indentify areas of your work experience that is specifically relevant to the job that you are being interviewed for. Be sure to scrutinise the job advert as this will guide your answer and provide you with clues on what exactly the recruiter is looking for in a candidate. Your answer should be concise and relevant; the recruiter has already seen your Curriculum Vitae and already has a good idea of your experience. Try to get the recruiter to specify what areas they would like you to discuss so as to avoid digressing off the topic with long winded explanations. The reason why the recruiter is asking this question even after having seen your CV application is because they want to hear how you would describe your experience verbally and to ensure that your verbal explanation is consistent with the information detailed in your CV.
What are your strengths and weaknesses?
Although this question may seem as though you should answer with a positive answer for your strengths and a negative for your weaknesses, try to give two positive answers. When discussing your strengths highlight roughly three positive attributes or strengths that specifically apply to the available post based on what you consider to be the recruiter's specific requirements. When indicating your weaknesses, never detail a character defect or poor performance areas that have no opportunity to be improved on. Rather, try to explain where you identified a problem area where you were able to remedy this and explain how you did so.
What do you know about our company and why do you want to work here?
You will need to prepare for this typical job interview question far in advance in order to ensure that you are comfortable discussing the employers company. Don't be a know it all, you are talking with someone who may have been part of the company for several years and will know greater detail that you will. Never argue about details and be open to correction should you have interpreted research information incorrectly. When answering the reason for you wanting to join their establishment specify what interests you about the industry or company and how you feel you could contribute to its longevity. Express admiration and respect for the company and include an explanation as to what value you feel you will be able to bring to the company that other candidates may not be able to. Try to get a good understanding of the company's objective as well as their vision and mission and how you plan on sustaining this or improving on it, based on your relevant skills and attributes.
Describe a short term goal you have set for yourself and how you intend on achieving this goal?
A short term goal generally falls within a one to two year delivery period. The goals that you describe should be career focussed, based on areas where you would like to improve on a skill or achieve a qualification that will boost your career growth. When answering to how you intend on achieving these goals to the employer, never leave a door closed. Opportunity and drive is your number one objective in order to achieve any goal and this is why your explanation needs to be realistic and attainable within this short period. By displaying your enthusiasm and desire to succeed, this will indicate to the employer that you are a motivated and inspired employee.
Where do you see yourself in five years?
When answering this typical job interview question stay focussed on career goals and aspirations. Potential employers don't want to hear about your plans to 'Take over their company' nor your desire to become a pro golfer. Keep these career aspirations realistic and attainable within a 5 year period. Discuss ways in which you anticipate attaining your career goals as well as steps you have already taken to reach these career goals.
What are you looking for in a job?
This may seem like an easy common interview question to answer, it is in fact a tricky job interview question. While the interviewer is asking you what you are looking for in a job, in actual fact they want you to answer with what they are looking for from you. Again when preparing for this question, be sure to have the job ad close at hand in order to assess in precise detail what the recruiter is looking for in a candidate. Answer this question the way you think the interviewer wants you to answer it, by describing desires that the job you have applied for will be able to deliver to the candidate.
What are your salary requirements?
Prepare ahead of time prior to your job interview on how you intend on answering this question. A good place to start is to research the industry standard or market related salary that employees in similar roles are earning. Generally this information can be found on the internet or alternatively recruitment agents will be able to give you a good indication of your market related salary. In your interview, try not to discuss exact figures but rather give a ball park figure that you will be able to negotiate on later on should the employer makes you an offer. Never discuss your salary goals unless asked by the interviewer.
Thursday, August 12, 2010
Personal Goals In Life
The moment we are born, we join a competition and end up competing with everyone around, including ourselves.,we asked to set our goals, which will decide the way we live our lives. Goals are supposed provide a definite direction to our lives and help us identify our final destinations. So many of us set goals at a time when we should be enjoying, and by the time we think we have achieved all our goals, we feel that something is missing. That is because we reach stagnation after that. Many of us do not know that goals are to be changed and ‘updated’ from time to time. Also, most of us might think that goals are only associated with career; contrary to that notion, goals are all-encompassing and are also include the personal and familial life of a person. Even as a person aims to reach to a certain level in their career, they might want to get a six pack abs! Here are a few personal goals that will make your lives worthwhile.
How To Set Personal Goals In Life
Here are some ways to decide upon various personal goals that you may want to set for yourself. Though education features first on the list, you could set your goals with first priority on something else – you must remember that these are not in the order of importance or significance. You could device your own priority list.
Education
This refers to any kind of knowledge that you may want to acquire, when you can do it or when you can devote time to it and how long would it take you to do so. Some people might decide to get a certain degree or attend classes after many years of having worked just to keep themselves updated about what is happening in the industry. Others may want to start with the profession only after they have acquired that knowledge. You should know when it is time for you to enhance your knowledge or acquire some new skills.
Career
You must have set goals about the profession that you are following. It is like asking yourself the very typical interview question – where do you see yourself after a stipulated amount of time. There is no point in reaching stagnation in your career and studies prove that people cannot be satisfied with their jobs or professions until it offers them challenges and more responsibilities at regular intervals. You should have a clear idea about where you wish to reach in your life. It is one goal that you cannot afford to lose track of. Employers also invest more in people who know where they are headed.
Financial
When you set out to work and began to work, you must have thought of the amount of money you will need to build a home of your own, what all you will need for it and so on. You might also want to know what you do with that money. You may want to keep track of your daily expenditure to know how much money is going in which direction, so that you can cut down on wasteful expenditure. If you plan to buy or build a house or acquire other assets, you may have to plan ahead as to how much money you will have to save for it.
Community Service
Many youngsters, even as they work and earn, support many causes that may touch a chord with them – some of them may want to associate themselves with AIDS awareness or may spend some time taking care of differently abled children or some others may want to lend a hand at the Helpage India Foundation. Whatever be the cause that you want to associate yourself with, make sure you stick to it. You should also know why you are associating yourself with the cause and how much time you can devote to the cause as a volunteer and in which way you can contribute to the cause that is close to your heart – whether it is spending some time with homeless veterans at Helpage homes, preparing to lend services as a volunteer for various activities or so on.
Family
Men and women have responsibilities towards their families, the ones they were a part of, as well as, the families that they build. You will need to ask yourself what kind of responsibilities you have towards your family members, your parents, your siblings, your children, your spouse, parents-in-law too. These responsibilities are not only in the material sense and go beyond the monetary duties. It could be in ways like helping your child with his physics lessons or helping your wife cook lunch every day because she is going through a painful menopause! It could also be in the form of taking care of ageing parents or, sometimes even parents-in-law. You have to know how much time and energy to devote for the family, which is your prime reason for earning a living.
How To Set Personal Goals In Life
Here are some ways to decide upon various personal goals that you may want to set for yourself. Though education features first on the list, you could set your goals with first priority on something else – you must remember that these are not in the order of importance or significance. You could device your own priority list.
Education
This refers to any kind of knowledge that you may want to acquire, when you can do it or when you can devote time to it and how long would it take you to do so. Some people might decide to get a certain degree or attend classes after many years of having worked just to keep themselves updated about what is happening in the industry. Others may want to start with the profession only after they have acquired that knowledge. You should know when it is time for you to enhance your knowledge or acquire some new skills.
Career
You must have set goals about the profession that you are following. It is like asking yourself the very typical interview question – where do you see yourself after a stipulated amount of time. There is no point in reaching stagnation in your career and studies prove that people cannot be satisfied with their jobs or professions until it offers them challenges and more responsibilities at regular intervals. You should have a clear idea about where you wish to reach in your life. It is one goal that you cannot afford to lose track of. Employers also invest more in people who know where they are headed.
Financial
When you set out to work and began to work, you must have thought of the amount of money you will need to build a home of your own, what all you will need for it and so on. You might also want to know what you do with that money. You may want to keep track of your daily expenditure to know how much money is going in which direction, so that you can cut down on wasteful expenditure. If you plan to buy or build a house or acquire other assets, you may have to plan ahead as to how much money you will have to save for it.
Community Service
Many youngsters, even as they work and earn, support many causes that may touch a chord with them – some of them may want to associate themselves with AIDS awareness or may spend some time taking care of differently abled children or some others may want to lend a hand at the Helpage India Foundation. Whatever be the cause that you want to associate yourself with, make sure you stick to it. You should also know why you are associating yourself with the cause and how much time you can devote to the cause as a volunteer and in which way you can contribute to the cause that is close to your heart – whether it is spending some time with homeless veterans at Helpage homes, preparing to lend services as a volunteer for various activities or so on.
Family
Men and women have responsibilities towards their families, the ones they were a part of, as well as, the families that they build. You will need to ask yourself what kind of responsibilities you have towards your family members, your parents, your siblings, your children, your spouse, parents-in-law too. These responsibilities are not only in the material sense and go beyond the monetary duties. It could be in ways like helping your child with his physics lessons or helping your wife cook lunch every day because she is going through a painful menopause! It could also be in the form of taking care of ageing parents or, sometimes even parents-in-law. You have to know how much time and energy to devote for the family, which is your prime reason for earning a living.
Confidence Building Techniques
Imagine a scene where you are on an operation table and the doctor who is doing your surgery is bathed with sweats and is wobbly with apprehensions. Would you want him to operate on you? The answer certainly is ‘no’ by all means. Even though the doctor may be very experienced and good, unless he is confident, you will never have confidence in him and better say you are off without him. Now come to think of it, are you like the wobbly doctor? Do you struggle to take decisions? If yes, then you might as well be suffering from lack of self-confidence. A person without confidence is like a ship without a captain. Self-confidence is of utmost importance in every aspect of our lives and unless we are confident, we would not be able to achieve anything in our life. Nobody is by birth a confident man/woman, it is cultivated and it is never too late to cultivate it. If you feel you lack in confidence, you can use confidence-building techniques to increase and enhance your confidence. So what are you waiting for? Go on read for yourself the techniques for confidence building.
Confidence Building Exercises....
Imagine yourself as the perfect person. You imagine yourself as an epitome of talent and virtue. You already have things, which you want to achieve. This is the greatest teaching of Zen.
Use positive motivational quotes from the good books you have ever read. Write them down on a book or in a laptop. Just refer it again and again when you feel so frustrated.
When you are feeling very less confident, imagine yourself as the wise man on earth. Think about how a wise, confident person would have handled the situation?
Study your favorite personalities and analyze their activities and behavior pattern and act like them.
Treat yourself as if you were your own best friend. You never want to hurt your best friend. Even if he does a mistake, you pamper him and convince him that he didn’t commit any. Treat yourself with the same approach. Never let you down in any case.
Be kind to yourself with your words and actions. Do not hurt yourself by complaining about your weakness and negative traits. Never think of yourself as a loser or a joker.
Focus on the positive things about yourself. Just make a list of positive traits. Analyze those qualities from roots, and find out what a beautiful personality you are.
Gracefully accept the compliments of others. There is nothing wrong in accepting the compliments from others. Your subconscious gets designed in a positive way when you accept the compliments from others. When you reach a higher level of confidence, you don’t need other’s compliments to feel contented.
Praise yourself million times a day if possible. Don’t be too pushy on success. Whenever you achieve a minor goal, praise yourself to the Himalayan heights.
Try to help others honestly. Never shut the door to people. Always keep a lot of friends.
There is a saying “look for the silver lining in every cloud” which means see positive traits in whatever happens even if that is a negative thing in a normal sense.
Imagine your life is already fulfilled and full of joy, fun, and music. If you can think of your imagination as the reality, it gradually turns into reality.
Practice meditation and yoga. You will feel more contented and relaxed.
Do some weight training exercises and build yourself a good physique. A strong physique is the foundation of good mind.
Do not watch, listen to, or read the news just before bed. News is polished version of facts, which is designed to shock you. Most of news, you can find in any newspaper are negative. So avoid the habit of reading the newspaper in night before you sleep. Instead of exposing yourself to bad news, recall the entire positive experiences of the day.
Confidence Building Exercises....
Imagine yourself as the perfect person. You imagine yourself as an epitome of talent and virtue. You already have things, which you want to achieve. This is the greatest teaching of Zen.
Use positive motivational quotes from the good books you have ever read. Write them down on a book or in a laptop. Just refer it again and again when you feel so frustrated.
When you are feeling very less confident, imagine yourself as the wise man on earth. Think about how a wise, confident person would have handled the situation?
Study your favorite personalities and analyze their activities and behavior pattern and act like them.
Treat yourself as if you were your own best friend. You never want to hurt your best friend. Even if he does a mistake, you pamper him and convince him that he didn’t commit any. Treat yourself with the same approach. Never let you down in any case.
Be kind to yourself with your words and actions. Do not hurt yourself by complaining about your weakness and negative traits. Never think of yourself as a loser or a joker.
Focus on the positive things about yourself. Just make a list of positive traits. Analyze those qualities from roots, and find out what a beautiful personality you are.
Gracefully accept the compliments of others. There is nothing wrong in accepting the compliments from others. Your subconscious gets designed in a positive way when you accept the compliments from others. When you reach a higher level of confidence, you don’t need other’s compliments to feel contented.
Praise yourself million times a day if possible. Don’t be too pushy on success. Whenever you achieve a minor goal, praise yourself to the Himalayan heights.
Try to help others honestly. Never shut the door to people. Always keep a lot of friends.
There is a saying “look for the silver lining in every cloud” which means see positive traits in whatever happens even if that is a negative thing in a normal sense.
Imagine your life is already fulfilled and full of joy, fun, and music. If you can think of your imagination as the reality, it gradually turns into reality.
Practice meditation and yoga. You will feel more contented and relaxed.
Do some weight training exercises and build yourself a good physique. A strong physique is the foundation of good mind.
Do not watch, listen to, or read the news just before bed. News is polished version of facts, which is designed to shock you. Most of news, you can find in any newspaper are negative. So avoid the habit of reading the newspaper in night before you sleep. Instead of exposing yourself to bad news, recall the entire positive experiences of the day.
How To Make A Great First Impression
The phrase, “first impression is the last impression”, has struck a note in the minds of all people alike, which is why most of us long to make a great first impact on people. Be it a business meeting, the first date or the first day at work, the first impression would go a long way in establishing and imprinting your position in the mind of the person you are meeting. As such, it is very necessary that you create a great impact, so that the person has positive feelings or thoughts of you. Great styling, impressive conduct, oozing confidence and a winning smile are some of the determining factors for making a striking first impression. If you want to arm yourself with all the tips on how to make a great first impression, keep reading the article.
Making A Strong First Impression
Right on Time
Imagine meeting a person for the first time and opening your introduction with a sorry or an excuse for being late? What a loser you would look like! Being on time is the first step towards making a great first impression. Plan your day in such a way that you reach the assigned location, at least 5 to 10 minutes prior to the preset time.
Just be Yourself
Most of the people go way beyond their individuality to create a good first impression. Result - confusion and nervousness!! To avoid such a scenario, the deal is to be yourself. If you are projecting your own personality to the person you are meeting, you would be utmost confident and completely at ease. And if you are calm and confident, the other person would automatically feel relaxed. Remember, even he/she is meeting you for the first time, so apprehensions and nervousness would be common between the two of you.
Style Yourself Well
Believe it or not, the first look can go a long way in making an impressive first impression. Here, grooming and styling should be the mantra for you. Dress appropriately before stepping out of the house. Make sure your hair-do serves as an add-on to your look. For men, going clean shaven is a must. Make sure that the attire you are wearing gives a boost to your personality, making you look all the more stunning and stylish. Remember, untidy clothes and messy hair-do is enough to make you look under confident and sheepish!
Impressive Introduction
While looks would create the 50% of the first impression, the rest depends on how impressive is your introduction. Since you are meeting a person for the first time, chances are that the two of you barely know each other. In such a case, it would be best if you start off with a bang. Smartly introduce yourself and fill in the other person with all the necessary details that he/she should know about. However, do not lengthen it. An impressive introduction is one that is short and crisp, with all the details.
Winning Smile
George Eliot rightly said “Wear a smile and have friends; wear a scowl and have wrinkles”. Nothing can be more depressing than to meet a person who is dressed up without a smile. Remember, a warm smile can shed off all the initial apprehensions and make both of you at ease. So, the trick is to smile and win the heart and mind of the other person. However, do not go overboard and laugh with your mouth open. (I’m sure the other person does not want to know how many teeth you have or how big your tonsils are!!)
Oozing Confidence
Did you know that your body language contributes more than 90% of your communication? Thus, it is very necessary to project appropriate body language. Small things like eye contact, standing tall with the head held high, a winning smile and a firm handshake would talk a lot about your personality and the person you are. Remember, if you want to create an impressive impression, keep the nervousness locked in your cupboard.
Chivalry at Best
Do we need to elucidate on this point? Needless to say, men and chivalry should go hand in hand. Good manners and courteous behavior lay the foundation for any relationship, creating the best first impression. A rule of the thumb - switch off your mobile while you are with the person. Remember, you are here to create a good impression on the person you are meeting and not on the person whom you are talking to!!
Making A Strong First Impression
Right on Time
Imagine meeting a person for the first time and opening your introduction with a sorry or an excuse for being late? What a loser you would look like! Being on time is the first step towards making a great first impression. Plan your day in such a way that you reach the assigned location, at least 5 to 10 minutes prior to the preset time.
Just be Yourself
Most of the people go way beyond their individuality to create a good first impression. Result - confusion and nervousness!! To avoid such a scenario, the deal is to be yourself. If you are projecting your own personality to the person you are meeting, you would be utmost confident and completely at ease. And if you are calm and confident, the other person would automatically feel relaxed. Remember, even he/she is meeting you for the first time, so apprehensions and nervousness would be common between the two of you.
Style Yourself Well
Believe it or not, the first look can go a long way in making an impressive first impression. Here, grooming and styling should be the mantra for you. Dress appropriately before stepping out of the house. Make sure your hair-do serves as an add-on to your look. For men, going clean shaven is a must. Make sure that the attire you are wearing gives a boost to your personality, making you look all the more stunning and stylish. Remember, untidy clothes and messy hair-do is enough to make you look under confident and sheepish!
Impressive Introduction
While looks would create the 50% of the first impression, the rest depends on how impressive is your introduction. Since you are meeting a person for the first time, chances are that the two of you barely know each other. In such a case, it would be best if you start off with a bang. Smartly introduce yourself and fill in the other person with all the necessary details that he/she should know about. However, do not lengthen it. An impressive introduction is one that is short and crisp, with all the details.
Winning Smile
George Eliot rightly said “Wear a smile and have friends; wear a scowl and have wrinkles”. Nothing can be more depressing than to meet a person who is dressed up without a smile. Remember, a warm smile can shed off all the initial apprehensions and make both of you at ease. So, the trick is to smile and win the heart and mind of the other person. However, do not go overboard and laugh with your mouth open. (I’m sure the other person does not want to know how many teeth you have or how big your tonsils are!!)
Oozing Confidence
Did you know that your body language contributes more than 90% of your communication? Thus, it is very necessary to project appropriate body language. Small things like eye contact, standing tall with the head held high, a winning smile and a firm handshake would talk a lot about your personality and the person you are. Remember, if you want to create an impressive impression, keep the nervousness locked in your cupboard.
Chivalry at Best
Do we need to elucidate on this point? Needless to say, men and chivalry should go hand in hand. Good manners and courteous behavior lay the foundation for any relationship, creating the best first impression. A rule of the thumb - switch off your mobile while you are with the person. Remember, you are here to create a good impression on the person you are meeting and not on the person whom you are talking to!!
Effective Leadership Skills
The secret to great leadership is about having the leadership skills to be able to deal with people in a delicate yet powerful manner. In fact leadership skills are much more than speaking confidently and carrying a serious demeanor. To be an effective leader, one must possess an exclusive set of human relations and interpersonal skills. The right leadership style is required in every walk of professional life, whether you own a business, manage it or are an employee looking to make your way up to the corporate ladder. Effective leadership skills cannot just be stumbled upon, they require investment of time and energy to perfect and craft your skills. Hence, it is rightly said, well-honed leadership skill is the most important component for being successful in the business world. Read to know the different traits of an effective leader.
Traits Of An Effective Leader
Emotional Stability
A good leader should be capable of tolerating frustration and stress. The person must be able to adjust well and have the psychological maturity to deal with anything that he/she is likely to face, while being a leader.
Dominance
An effective leader must be assertive in his thinking style and have a confident attitude, while dealing with other people. He should be competitive and capable of taking decisions on behalf of his entire team.
Enthusiasm
Leaders are assumed to be active and expressive. An effective leader must be optimistic and open to changes coming across him. However, he should also be quick and alert while doing so. He/she should have an undying spirit and enduring enthusiasm about the work and should be capable of inducing the same attitude into his team.
Conscientiousness
Since leaders are dominated by a sense of duty, they tend to be demanding in character. Hence, a successful leader should be very self-disciplined and have a need for order and a high standard of excellence.
Tough-mindedness
A good leader should be practical, logical and to-the-point. Since he/she has to face lots of risks and criticism, a leader must be low in sentimental attachments and insensitive to hardship.
Self-assurance
Other common characteristics of an effective leader are self-confidence and resiliency. A leader should be secure, free of guilt and unaffected by prior mistakes or failures.
High Energy
A leader should be highly energetic since he would have to invest in long hours of work to raise the company. A leader should possess a never-say-die-spirit and should always to ready for challenges.
Maturity
Personal power and recognition should be put aside to focus on the development of the employees in order to be a good leader. One must be mature enough to recognize that more can be accomplished by empowering others, rather than ruling them.
Team Orientation
These days, more emphasis is laid upon team work by business leaders. A good leader establishes an adult-adult relationship with his employees to encourage and motivate them, rather than an adult-child relationship, wherein the former orders and the latter obeys.
Charisma
Since leaders are perceived larger than life by most people, charisma plays an integral role in gaining the trust of the employees. Charismatic leaders are better capable of arousing strong emotions among the employees by defining a vision, thereby unifying and captivating them. Through this vision, a leader better motivates employees to achieve their future goals, resulting in personal rewards and values.
Traits Of An Effective Leader
Emotional Stability
A good leader should be capable of tolerating frustration and stress. The person must be able to adjust well and have the psychological maturity to deal with anything that he/she is likely to face, while being a leader.
Dominance
An effective leader must be assertive in his thinking style and have a confident attitude, while dealing with other people. He should be competitive and capable of taking decisions on behalf of his entire team.
Enthusiasm
Leaders are assumed to be active and expressive. An effective leader must be optimistic and open to changes coming across him. However, he should also be quick and alert while doing so. He/she should have an undying spirit and enduring enthusiasm about the work and should be capable of inducing the same attitude into his team.
Conscientiousness
Since leaders are dominated by a sense of duty, they tend to be demanding in character. Hence, a successful leader should be very self-disciplined and have a need for order and a high standard of excellence.
Tough-mindedness
A good leader should be practical, logical and to-the-point. Since he/she has to face lots of risks and criticism, a leader must be low in sentimental attachments and insensitive to hardship.
Self-assurance
Other common characteristics of an effective leader are self-confidence and resiliency. A leader should be secure, free of guilt and unaffected by prior mistakes or failures.
High Energy
A leader should be highly energetic since he would have to invest in long hours of work to raise the company. A leader should possess a never-say-die-spirit and should always to ready for challenges.
Maturity
Personal power and recognition should be put aside to focus on the development of the employees in order to be a good leader. One must be mature enough to recognize that more can be accomplished by empowering others, rather than ruling them.
Team Orientation
These days, more emphasis is laid upon team work by business leaders. A good leader establishes an adult-adult relationship with his employees to encourage and motivate them, rather than an adult-child relationship, wherein the former orders and the latter obeys.
Charisma
Since leaders are perceived larger than life by most people, charisma plays an integral role in gaining the trust of the employees. Charismatic leaders are better capable of arousing strong emotions among the employees by defining a vision, thereby unifying and captivating them. Through this vision, a leader better motivates employees to achieve their future goals, resulting in personal rewards and values.
Wednesday, August 4, 2010
EXAMPLES OF SWOT ANALYSIS
Example 1 - Wal-Mart SWOT Analysis.
Strengths - Wal-Mart is a powerful retail brand. It has a reputation for value for money, convenience and a wide range of products all in one store. Weaknesses - Wal-Mart is the World's largest grocery retailer and control of its empire, despite its IT advantages, could leave it weak in some areas due to the huge span of control. Opportunities - To take over, merge with, or form strategic alliances with other global retailers, focusing on specific markets such as Europe or the Greater China Region. Threats - Being number one means that you are the target of competition, locally and globally.
Example 2 - Starbucks SWOT Analysis.
Strengths - Starbucks Corporation is a very profitable organization, earning in excess of $600 million in 2004. Weaknesses - Starbucks has a reputation for new product development and creativity. Opportunities - New products and services that can be retailed in their cafes, such as Fair Trade products. Threats - Starbucks are exposed to rises in the cost of coffee and dairy products.
Example 3 - Nike SWOT Analysis.
Strengths - Nike is a very competitive organization. Phil Knight (Founder and CEO) is often quoted as saying that 'Business is war without bullets. 'Weaknesses - The organization does have a diversified range of sports products. Opportunities - Product development offers Nike many opportunities. Threats - Nike is exposed to the international nature of trade.
Example 4 - Indian Premier League (IPL) SWOT Analysis.
Where will you find the Mumbai Indians, the Royal Challengers, the Deccan Chargers, the Channai Super Kings, the Delhi Daredevils, the Kings XI Punjab, the Kolkata Knight Riders and the Rajesthan Royals? In the Indian Premier League (IPL) - the most exciting sports franchise that the World has seen in recent years, with seemingly endless marketing opportunities (and strengths, weaknesses and threats of course!).
Example 5 - Bharti Airtel SWOT Analysis.
Weaknesses - An often cited original weakness is that when the business was started by Sunil Bharti Mittal over 15 years ago, the business has little knowledge and experience of how a cellular telephone system actually worked. So the start-up business had to outsource to industry experts in the field.
Simple rules for successful SWOT analysis.
Be realistic about the strengths and weaknesses of your organization when conducting SWOT analysis.
SWOT analysis should distinguish between where your organization is today, and where it could be in the future.
SWOT should always be specific. Avoid grey areas.
Always apply SWOT in relation to your competition i.e. better than or worse than your competition.
Keep your SWOT short and simple. Avoid complexity and over analysis
SWOT is subjective.
Once key issues have been identified with your SWOT analysis, they feed into marketing objectives. SWOT can be used in conjunction with other tools for audit and analysis, such as PEST analysis and Porter's Five-Forces analysis. So SWOT is a very popular tool with marketing students because it is quick and easy to learn. During the SWOT exercise, list factors in the relevant boxes. It's that simple. Below are some FREE examples of SWOT analysis - click to go straight to them
SWOT analysis should distinguish between where your organization is today, and where it could be in the future.
SWOT should always be specific. Avoid grey areas.
Always apply SWOT in relation to your competition i.e. better than or worse than your competition.
Keep your SWOT short and simple. Avoid complexity and over analysis
SWOT is subjective.
Once key issues have been identified with your SWOT analysis, they feed into marketing objectives. SWOT can be used in conjunction with other tools for audit and analysis, such as PEST analysis and Porter's Five-Forces analysis. So SWOT is a very popular tool with marketing students because it is quick and easy to learn. During the SWOT exercise, list factors in the relevant boxes. It's that simple. Below are some FREE examples of SWOT analysis - click to go straight to them
SWOT Analysis
SWOT analysis is a tool for auditing an organization and its environment. It is the first stage of planning and helps marketers to focus on key issues. SWOT stands for strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats. Strengths and weaknesses are internal factors. Opportunities and threats are external factors.
In SWOT, strengths and weaknesses are internal factors.
For example:
A strength could be:
Your specialist marketing expertise.
A new, innovative product or service.
Location of your business.
Quality processes and procedures.
Any other aspect of your business that adds value to your product or service.
A weakness could be:
Lack of marketing expertise.
Undifferentiated products or services (i.e. in relation to your competitors).
Location of your business.
Poor quality goods or services.
Damaged reputation.
In SWOT, opportunities and threats are external factors.
For example:
An opportunity could be:
A developing market such as the Internet.
Mergers, joint ventures or strategic alliances.
Moving into new market segments that offer improved profits.
A new international market.
A market vacated by an ineffective competitor.
A threat could be:
A new competitor in your home market.
Price wars with competitors.
A competitor has a new, innovative product or service.
Competitors have superior access to channels of distribution.
Taxation is introduced on your product or service.
Learning Time Management Skills
The good news is that time management skills can be learned and mastered by anyone. All it takes is practice and dedication.
Like any other skill, you can learn time management the easy way or you can learn it the hard way.
The hard way usually involves years of trial and error and lots of false starts trying to figure out what works and what doesn't.
If you'd like to save yourself some time, money and effort, I recommend you try the easy way: learn from someone who has already done it.
Makes sense, right?
15 Time Management Tips
In the meantime, here are 15 practical time management tips to help you get started...
1. Write things down
A common time management mistake is to try to use your memory to keep track of too many details leading to information overload. Using a to-do list to write things down is a great way to take control of your projects and tasks and keep yourself organized.
2. Prioritize your list.....
Prioritizing your to-do list helps you focus and spend more of your time on the things that really matter to you. Rate your tasks into categories using the ABCD prioritization system described in the time management course.
3. Plan your week....
Spend some time at the beginning of each week to plan your schedule. Taking the extra time to do this will help increase your productivity and balance your important long-term projects with your more urgent tasks. All you need is fifteen to thirty minutes each week for your planning session.
4. Carry a notebook.....
You never know when you are going to have a great idea or brilliant insight. Carry a small notebook with you wherever you go so you can capture your thoughts. If you wait too long to write them down you could forget. Another option is to use a digital recorder.
5. Learn to say no.....
Many people become overloaded with too much work because they overcommit; they say yes when they really should be saying no. Learn to say no to low priority requests and you will free up time to spend on things that are more important.
6. Think before acting.....
How many times have you said yes to something you later regretted? Before committing to a new task, stop to think about it before you give your answer. This will prevent you from taking on too much work.
7. Continuously improve yourself.....
Make time in your schedule to learn new things and develop your natural talents and abilities. For example, you could take a class, attend a training program, or read a book. Continuously improving your knowledge and skills increases your marketability, can help boost your career, and is the most reliable path to financial independence.
8. Think about what you are giving up to do your regular activities....
It is a good idea to evaluate regularly how you are spending your time. In some cases, the best thing you can do is to stop doing an activity that is no longer serving you so you can spend the time doing something more valuable. Consider what you are giving up in order to maintain your current activities.
9. Use a time management system......
Using a time management system can help you keep track of everything that you need to do, organize and prioritize your work, and develop sound plans to complete it. An integrated system is like glue that holds all the best time management practices together.
10. Identify bad habits......
Make a list of bad habits that are stealing your time, sabotaging your goals, and blocking your success. After you do, work on them one at a time and systematically eliminate them from your life. Remember that the easiest way to eliminate a bad habit, it to replace it with a better habit.
11. Don’t do other people’s work.....
Are you in the habit of doing other people’s work because or a ‘hero’ mentality? Doing this takes up time that you may not have. Instead, focus on your own projects and goals, learn to delegate effectively, and teach others how to do their own work.
12. Keep a goal journal.....
Schedule time to set and evaluate your goals. Start a journal and write down your progress for each goal. Go through your goal journal each week to make sure you are on the right track.
Keeping a journal on your computer has never been easier!
13. Don’t be a perfectionist....
Some tasks don’t require your best effort. Sending a short email to a colleague, for example, shouldn’t take any more than a few minutes. Learn to distinguish between tasks that deserve to be done excellently and tasks that just need to be done.
14. Beware of “filler” tasks.....
When you have a to-do list filled with important tasks, be careful not to get distracted by “filler” tasks. Things such as organizing your bookcase or filing papers can wait until you tackle the items that have the highest priority.
15. Avoid “efficiency traps”
Being efficient doesn’t necessarily mean that you are being productive. Avoid taking on tasks that you can do with efficiency that don’t need to be done at all. Just because you are busy and getting things done doesn’t mean you are actually accomplishing anything significant.
Like any other skill, you can learn time management the easy way or you can learn it the hard way.
The hard way usually involves years of trial and error and lots of false starts trying to figure out what works and what doesn't.
If you'd like to save yourself some time, money and effort, I recommend you try the easy way: learn from someone who has already done it.
Makes sense, right?
15 Time Management Tips
In the meantime, here are 15 practical time management tips to help you get started...
1. Write things down
A common time management mistake is to try to use your memory to keep track of too many details leading to information overload. Using a to-do list to write things down is a great way to take control of your projects and tasks and keep yourself organized.
2. Prioritize your list.....
Prioritizing your to-do list helps you focus and spend more of your time on the things that really matter to you. Rate your tasks into categories using the ABCD prioritization system described in the time management course.
3. Plan your week....
Spend some time at the beginning of each week to plan your schedule. Taking the extra time to do this will help increase your productivity and balance your important long-term projects with your more urgent tasks. All you need is fifteen to thirty minutes each week for your planning session.
4. Carry a notebook.....
You never know when you are going to have a great idea or brilliant insight. Carry a small notebook with you wherever you go so you can capture your thoughts. If you wait too long to write them down you could forget. Another option is to use a digital recorder.
5. Learn to say no.....
Many people become overloaded with too much work because they overcommit; they say yes when they really should be saying no. Learn to say no to low priority requests and you will free up time to spend on things that are more important.
6. Think before acting.....
How many times have you said yes to something you later regretted? Before committing to a new task, stop to think about it before you give your answer. This will prevent you from taking on too much work.
7. Continuously improve yourself.....
Make time in your schedule to learn new things and develop your natural talents and abilities. For example, you could take a class, attend a training program, or read a book. Continuously improving your knowledge and skills increases your marketability, can help boost your career, and is the most reliable path to financial independence.
8. Think about what you are giving up to do your regular activities....
It is a good idea to evaluate regularly how you are spending your time. In some cases, the best thing you can do is to stop doing an activity that is no longer serving you so you can spend the time doing something more valuable. Consider what you are giving up in order to maintain your current activities.
9. Use a time management system......
Using a time management system can help you keep track of everything that you need to do, organize and prioritize your work, and develop sound plans to complete it. An integrated system is like glue that holds all the best time management practices together.
10. Identify bad habits......
Make a list of bad habits that are stealing your time, sabotaging your goals, and blocking your success. After you do, work on them one at a time and systematically eliminate them from your life. Remember that the easiest way to eliminate a bad habit, it to replace it with a better habit.
11. Don’t do other people’s work.....
Are you in the habit of doing other people’s work because or a ‘hero’ mentality? Doing this takes up time that you may not have. Instead, focus on your own projects and goals, learn to delegate effectively, and teach others how to do their own work.
12. Keep a goal journal.....
Schedule time to set and evaluate your goals. Start a journal and write down your progress for each goal. Go through your goal journal each week to make sure you are on the right track.
Keeping a journal on your computer has never been easier!
13. Don’t be a perfectionist....
Some tasks don’t require your best effort. Sending a short email to a colleague, for example, shouldn’t take any more than a few minutes. Learn to distinguish between tasks that deserve to be done excellently and tasks that just need to be done.
14. Beware of “filler” tasks.....
When you have a to-do list filled with important tasks, be careful not to get distracted by “filler” tasks. Things such as organizing your bookcase or filing papers can wait until you tackle the items that have the highest priority.
15. Avoid “efficiency traps”
Being efficient doesn’t necessarily mean that you are being productive. Avoid taking on tasks that you can do with efficiency that don’t need to be done at all. Just because you are busy and getting things done doesn’t mean you are actually accomplishing anything significant.
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
Importance of Body Language in Personality DevelopmentBasic Do’s for Body Language
Body language, which is best defined as a non-verbal form of communication showed through facial expressions, gestures, posture, and body movements, says a lot about one’s personality. In essence, if you want to achieve an effective personality, you will also need to improve your body language.
There are many ways you can improve your body language, but like most things, it needs practice and consistency so that it will become part of you, and not just something you can do for a certain period of time. If you want to develop your personality in a positive way, you need to be aware of your own body language and make sure it adheres to what is generally perceived as positive body language.
These are just some of the different body language examples that you should follow.
Maintaining eye contact is a sign of respect and interest towards the other person. If someone is talking and you make sure you are keeping your eyes focused on them then this will make them feel that you are in fact interested in what they have to say.
Another body language is your facial expression. If you are always frowning, this would indicate that you have a negative aura, and this will push others away. Whereas if you are constantly seen smiling, you are going to attract other sunny and happy people to you.
Posture is also very important. You need to sit properly, avoid slouching, and if you can, keep an open posture at all times, leaning towards the speaker whenever necessary, to show that you are interested.
Don’ts for Body Language
Just as there are various body language movements and expressions you need to have, there are also those you need to do away with. These kinds of body language are negative, and not at all helpful in projecting a pleasant or winning personality.
• Fidgeting. This would only indicate nervousness and will make the other person doubt your credibility or your ability.
• Standing too close. When you are too close to someone, physically, it will make the other person uncomfortable and will also trigger them to think you are invading their personal space.
• Staring. Though it may not always be the case, staring is considered rude. While you maintain eye contact towards the other person, do not overdo it to the point of staring.
• Crossing your arms. This would indicate resistance on your part, so if someone is talking to you and you are crossing your arms, you will make the other person think that you really are not agreeing to what they have to say and you are making it known to them.
Practice Makes Perfect
As mentioned earlier, it is recommended that you keep practicing in order for these body languages to become natural for you. Now that you are already aware of the do’s and don’ts, you can easily figure out which ones you need to get used to and which ones you need to get rid of. And little by little, on a daily basis, you need to practice and maintain good body language. Constantly remind yourself of what gestures, movements, and expressions you should have until it will be innate in you.
Your personality can be molded into what you have always wanted. You can attain a winning personality which everyone will admire you for. While you can always work on the way you verbally communicate, improve your confidence, and build a positive aura around you, you also need to be aware of your own body language. Look at yourself in the mirror while you talk and notice every form of body language you portray. Are these positive? If there are those that you do not like, make an effort to eliminate them.
There are many ways you can improve your body language, but like most things, it needs practice and consistency so that it will become part of you, and not just something you can do for a certain period of time. If you want to develop your personality in a positive way, you need to be aware of your own body language and make sure it adheres to what is generally perceived as positive body language.
These are just some of the different body language examples that you should follow.
Maintaining eye contact is a sign of respect and interest towards the other person. If someone is talking and you make sure you are keeping your eyes focused on them then this will make them feel that you are in fact interested in what they have to say.
Another body language is your facial expression. If you are always frowning, this would indicate that you have a negative aura, and this will push others away. Whereas if you are constantly seen smiling, you are going to attract other sunny and happy people to you.
Posture is also very important. You need to sit properly, avoid slouching, and if you can, keep an open posture at all times, leaning towards the speaker whenever necessary, to show that you are interested.
Don’ts for Body Language
Just as there are various body language movements and expressions you need to have, there are also those you need to do away with. These kinds of body language are negative, and not at all helpful in projecting a pleasant or winning personality.
• Fidgeting. This would only indicate nervousness and will make the other person doubt your credibility or your ability.
• Standing too close. When you are too close to someone, physically, it will make the other person uncomfortable and will also trigger them to think you are invading their personal space.
• Staring. Though it may not always be the case, staring is considered rude. While you maintain eye contact towards the other person, do not overdo it to the point of staring.
• Crossing your arms. This would indicate resistance on your part, so if someone is talking to you and you are crossing your arms, you will make the other person think that you really are not agreeing to what they have to say and you are making it known to them.
Practice Makes Perfect
As mentioned earlier, it is recommended that you keep practicing in order for these body languages to become natural for you. Now that you are already aware of the do’s and don’ts, you can easily figure out which ones you need to get used to and which ones you need to get rid of. And little by little, on a daily basis, you need to practice and maintain good body language. Constantly remind yourself of what gestures, movements, and expressions you should have until it will be innate in you.
Your personality can be molded into what you have always wanted. You can attain a winning personality which everyone will admire you for. While you can always work on the way you verbally communicate, improve your confidence, and build a positive aura around you, you also need to be aware of your own body language. Look at yourself in the mirror while you talk and notice every form of body language you portray. Are these positive? If there are those that you do not like, make an effort to eliminate them.
Importance of Speech in Personality Development
In every aspect of our life, a good personality holds a very important value. Whether you are a budding professional, an established career person, or perhaps a home-maker, it is something that will help you develop and maintain solid relationships with others.
One of the key facets of personality development is speech. This is the ability of a person to effectively communicate verbally. Some people are gifted with verbal communication skills, while others are simply to shy and unsure of their abilities to even want to try. Speech is important in so many ways; be it at home, at school, or at the workplace, you need to be able to articulate well the thoughts and ideas you have.
In personality development, the importance of speech is summed up into two: perception, and expression. By reading further, you can acquire a better understanding of what we are talking about.
Gaining Positive Perception from Others
Human as we are, we often judge others by what we see. We easily have our own perception on what is going on around us. In the same way, our perception of others can be influenced by the way they speak and the message they are trying to relay. This is one of the reasons why speech is very important in personality development.
You see, if we are careful with our speech, whether formal or informal, we can gain a positive perception from our peers, colleagues, and our superiors. If we are fond of using negative words, for example, people will tend to think that we have a bad personality. On the other hand, if we talk with grace, finesse, and confidence, then it is common for others to perceive us as someone with a pleasing personality.
Putting Into Words Our Thoughts and Ideas through Oral Expression
It is, without doubt, very difficult to improve our personality if we cannot even verbalize what it is we want to say. If we hesitate to speak on fear of being misjudged by others, if we are too shy and scared to open our mouth in a gathering, it will really be difficult for us to develop our personality.
Part of our development is derived from what we learn from others, but if we have poor oral communication skills and refuse to do something about it, then we are blocking the doors for growth. Being able to express ourselves through speech is essential to build relationships with people, but if we keep on holding back and decline any opportunity to improve, then nothing good will ever come out of it.
Tips to Improve Your Speech Communication Skills
There is always a way around a problem, and if speech is something you are finding hard to deal with, you should not worry as there is a way to solve this. Here are some tips you will find useful in your goal to communicate effectively by means of speech. By following these, you are already doing your part to not only speak better, but to improve your personality as well.
First of all, you should be confident about yourself. You need to believe that you are capable of verbally expressing yourself. Secondly, use polite speech and body language. Now this is something other people miss out on; the words you use and the actions you make will show the type of person you are so this is something you should be careful of. Thirdly, modulate your voice and do not speak too fast or too slow. Voice quality, along with body language and content, always plays a very crucial role on how people will perceive you when you speak.
One of the key facets of personality development is speech. This is the ability of a person to effectively communicate verbally. Some people are gifted with verbal communication skills, while others are simply to shy and unsure of their abilities to even want to try. Speech is important in so many ways; be it at home, at school, or at the workplace, you need to be able to articulate well the thoughts and ideas you have.
In personality development, the importance of speech is summed up into two: perception, and expression. By reading further, you can acquire a better understanding of what we are talking about.
Gaining Positive Perception from Others
Human as we are, we often judge others by what we see. We easily have our own perception on what is going on around us. In the same way, our perception of others can be influenced by the way they speak and the message they are trying to relay. This is one of the reasons why speech is very important in personality development.
You see, if we are careful with our speech, whether formal or informal, we can gain a positive perception from our peers, colleagues, and our superiors. If we are fond of using negative words, for example, people will tend to think that we have a bad personality. On the other hand, if we talk with grace, finesse, and confidence, then it is common for others to perceive us as someone with a pleasing personality.
Putting Into Words Our Thoughts and Ideas through Oral Expression
It is, without doubt, very difficult to improve our personality if we cannot even verbalize what it is we want to say. If we hesitate to speak on fear of being misjudged by others, if we are too shy and scared to open our mouth in a gathering, it will really be difficult for us to develop our personality.
Part of our development is derived from what we learn from others, but if we have poor oral communication skills and refuse to do something about it, then we are blocking the doors for growth. Being able to express ourselves through speech is essential to build relationships with people, but if we keep on holding back and decline any opportunity to improve, then nothing good will ever come out of it.
Tips to Improve Your Speech Communication Skills
There is always a way around a problem, and if speech is something you are finding hard to deal with, you should not worry as there is a way to solve this. Here are some tips you will find useful in your goal to communicate effectively by means of speech. By following these, you are already doing your part to not only speak better, but to improve your personality as well.
First of all, you should be confident about yourself. You need to believe that you are capable of verbally expressing yourself. Secondly, use polite speech and body language. Now this is something other people miss out on; the words you use and the actions you make will show the type of person you are so this is something you should be careful of. Thirdly, modulate your voice and do not speak too fast or too slow. Voice quality, along with body language and content, always plays a very crucial role on how people will perceive you when you speak.
How to Avoid Negative Thoughts
Every individual’s personality is characterized by patterns of thoughts, feelings, and behavior. Our mind and behavior are closely connected to each other. We manifest into actions what we think. We react either positively or negatively according to what we think. A person who tends to entertain more of the negative thoughts than the positive ones is someone who possesses a not-so-good personality.
It follows that if you think negatively most of the time, you also manifest undesirable behaviors and outlook in life. So, do not be surprised if people will not really take time to interact with you or if those around you would pitch in negative remarks about your personality. It is because people tend to enjoy the company of those who have positive thoughts and attitude. Here are some effective methods in avoiding pessimistic thoughts.
Positive Thinking
The power of positive thinking is so prevailing that it can eradicate depressing thoughts in your mind. Also, you must know that once you start to entertain more optimistic thoughts, you will attract more of the positive vibes and situations. According to the law of attraction, whatever your thoughts give out to the universe, the universe will simply respond according to those thoughts.
Positive thinking is known to be a mental attitude that seeks for constructive and favorable outcomes. When we think of affirmative and encouraging thoughts, it becomes apparent in our words and actions. These are essential in our success and growth in life, career, experiences, and relationships.
For example, you are in a final interview for the job position you have always aimed for. Instead of thinking of failing and the what if’s, you might as well prepare for your responses to the possible questions. Think of getting the job rather than being nervous of the other applicants. Once you have this kind of mental attitude, you will find out that you will exude more confidence in answering and presenting yourself.
In order to develop positive thinking, use affirmative words while thinking and talking. You can also watch feel-good movies such as comedy flicks. Try reading a few lines from an inspiring book or article everyday. Mingle with people who think positively most of the time. Think of past experiences that relieve happy memories such as family vacation, bonding with friends, or bonding moments with your dog.
Affirmations
As mentioned in the previous paragraph, the use of affirmative words can help improve positive thinking. These are positive words and statement that we can use in our communication with other people. They describe situations, events, goals in a positive manner. Affirmations need to be repeated either mentally or verbally with sincerity and eagerness until it is brought into the subconscious mind and automatically becomes a part of it. Our subconscious adapts to these new ways of thinking so we tend to develop better habits and attitudes and even create new skills.
Some examples of affirmative words are “I am able to”, “I can”, and “It is possible”. Avoid the use of vague and negative expressions such as “no”. You may also create your own power dialogues and keep on repeating it everyday until your mind becomes accustomed to it.
Creative Visualization
Creative visualization is another effective method to avoid negative thoughts. This is a process of painting a picture in your mind on the things that you wish to happen in your life or the things you wish to achieve. Because our mind is so powerful, it can create a vivid imagination of our thoughts. For example, every time you feel down, try to simply visualize a baby who looks so adorable. When you think of such thought, your mind clears away the problems and happy thoughts dominate the subconscious.
Do not hesitate to think big and dream big. Visualize yourself having an abundant wealth, living in your dream house, driving your dream car, and living a more satisfying life. There is definitely no harm to think of big ambitions.
It follows that if you think negatively most of the time, you also manifest undesirable behaviors and outlook in life. So, do not be surprised if people will not really take time to interact with you or if those around you would pitch in negative remarks about your personality. It is because people tend to enjoy the company of those who have positive thoughts and attitude. Here are some effective methods in avoiding pessimistic thoughts.
Positive Thinking
The power of positive thinking is so prevailing that it can eradicate depressing thoughts in your mind. Also, you must know that once you start to entertain more optimistic thoughts, you will attract more of the positive vibes and situations. According to the law of attraction, whatever your thoughts give out to the universe, the universe will simply respond according to those thoughts.
Positive thinking is known to be a mental attitude that seeks for constructive and favorable outcomes. When we think of affirmative and encouraging thoughts, it becomes apparent in our words and actions. These are essential in our success and growth in life, career, experiences, and relationships.
For example, you are in a final interview for the job position you have always aimed for. Instead of thinking of failing and the what if’s, you might as well prepare for your responses to the possible questions. Think of getting the job rather than being nervous of the other applicants. Once you have this kind of mental attitude, you will find out that you will exude more confidence in answering and presenting yourself.
In order to develop positive thinking, use affirmative words while thinking and talking. You can also watch feel-good movies such as comedy flicks. Try reading a few lines from an inspiring book or article everyday. Mingle with people who think positively most of the time. Think of past experiences that relieve happy memories such as family vacation, bonding with friends, or bonding moments with your dog.
Affirmations
As mentioned in the previous paragraph, the use of affirmative words can help improve positive thinking. These are positive words and statement that we can use in our communication with other people. They describe situations, events, goals in a positive manner. Affirmations need to be repeated either mentally or verbally with sincerity and eagerness until it is brought into the subconscious mind and automatically becomes a part of it. Our subconscious adapts to these new ways of thinking so we tend to develop better habits and attitudes and even create new skills.
Some examples of affirmative words are “I am able to”, “I can”, and “It is possible”. Avoid the use of vague and negative expressions such as “no”. You may also create your own power dialogues and keep on repeating it everyday until your mind becomes accustomed to it.
Creative Visualization
Creative visualization is another effective method to avoid negative thoughts. This is a process of painting a picture in your mind on the things that you wish to happen in your life or the things you wish to achieve. Because our mind is so powerful, it can create a vivid imagination of our thoughts. For example, every time you feel down, try to simply visualize a baby who looks so adorable. When you think of such thought, your mind clears away the problems and happy thoughts dominate the subconscious.
Do not hesitate to think big and dream big. Visualize yourself having an abundant wealth, living in your dream house, driving your dream car, and living a more satisfying life. There is definitely no harm to think of big ambitions.
How to Enhance Your Personality
Many of us go to great lengths just to improve our personality. We want to be admired by everyone in terms of the way we look and the way we dress up. That is why some people would spend money going to salons and derma clinics just to look and feel good. You want to impress others with the way you think and the way you interact with them. So those who lack the confidence in their communication and interaction skills really make an effort to become better in conversations or socializing with other people....
Many of us are so concerned with how people perceive us and what they can say about our personalities. And in enhancing our personality, there are different aspects of our human character that we can focus on. They say that an impressive personality is a total package of an individual’s mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, and general well-being..
Be Physically Appealing
Our physical traits are one of the aspects in assessing our characters. It is because how we carry our physical attributes reflects our inner personality. It is usually with our outer appearance that causes people to initially create an impression. To boost your personality, you need to make sure you appear physically appealing and attractive with your manner of dressing, the way you put on make-up, the way you do your hair, and the way you present yourself to people. It does not necessarily mean that you have to wear flashy clothes and or a really made-up hairdo just to get people’s attention. It simply means being neat, well-groomed, maintaining a good posture, and properly dressed for the appropriate situation.
Everyone is attracted to someone who keeps a neat and well-groomed appearance. When leaving the house, make sure that your hair is neatly combed or brushed and the nails are trimmed. Take a shower daily to be fresh all the time. Double check yourself and your attire in the mirror before leaving and make sure that your outfit does not catch attention by either being sloppily dressed or overly dressed. You must care for your body by keeping it healthy. A regular exercise or engaging in sports will keep you physically fit.
Widen Your Knowledge and Experience
Our everyday encounters with various situations and different kinds of people are huge factors in molding our personalities. You need to gather as many experiences as you can wherever you may be. It is through these experiences that we get to understand who we really are and how we are in dealing with unfamiliar circumstances.
Never hesitate to learn many new things. Doing so only expands your horizons and develops undiscovered skills in other aspects. Take interest in your surroundings and be keenly observant.
Be interested in people and learn what they want. Find out their preferences, interests, beliefs, and actions. Attend social occasions and gatherings where you get the chance to meet new acquaintances. Travel a lot to places you want to go and discover. Traveling provides exposure and is guaranteed to broaden one’s knowledge and experience which, in turn, broaden one’s mind to many things.
Develop a Likeable Attitude
If you want to make people like you, learn to like yourself first and be likeable. Once you develop a good personality, people will easily admire and like you. Reflect on what you like and what you dislike about yourself. Take note of your assets and positive aspects. Develop an attitude that will be impressive to others. In augmenting your personality, this aspect is way more challenging than boosting the physical appearance.
It is important to learn to admit your weaknesses and flaws and then do something to correct them. Never tell yourself that this is all that you are and you cannot do anything about yourself anymore. There is always a chance to change if you are more than willing to go through it.
Many of us are so concerned with how people perceive us and what they can say about our personalities. And in enhancing our personality, there are different aspects of our human character that we can focus on. They say that an impressive personality is a total package of an individual’s mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, and general well-being..
Be Physically Appealing
Our physical traits are one of the aspects in assessing our characters. It is because how we carry our physical attributes reflects our inner personality. It is usually with our outer appearance that causes people to initially create an impression. To boost your personality, you need to make sure you appear physically appealing and attractive with your manner of dressing, the way you put on make-up, the way you do your hair, and the way you present yourself to people. It does not necessarily mean that you have to wear flashy clothes and or a really made-up hairdo just to get people’s attention. It simply means being neat, well-groomed, maintaining a good posture, and properly dressed for the appropriate situation.
Everyone is attracted to someone who keeps a neat and well-groomed appearance. When leaving the house, make sure that your hair is neatly combed or brushed and the nails are trimmed. Take a shower daily to be fresh all the time. Double check yourself and your attire in the mirror before leaving and make sure that your outfit does not catch attention by either being sloppily dressed or overly dressed. You must care for your body by keeping it healthy. A regular exercise or engaging in sports will keep you physically fit.
Widen Your Knowledge and Experience
Our everyday encounters with various situations and different kinds of people are huge factors in molding our personalities. You need to gather as many experiences as you can wherever you may be. It is through these experiences that we get to understand who we really are and how we are in dealing with unfamiliar circumstances.
Never hesitate to learn many new things. Doing so only expands your horizons and develops undiscovered skills in other aspects. Take interest in your surroundings and be keenly observant.
Be interested in people and learn what they want. Find out their preferences, interests, beliefs, and actions. Attend social occasions and gatherings where you get the chance to meet new acquaintances. Travel a lot to places you want to go and discover. Traveling provides exposure and is guaranteed to broaden one’s knowledge and experience which, in turn, broaden one’s mind to many things.
Develop a Likeable Attitude
If you want to make people like you, learn to like yourself first and be likeable. Once you develop a good personality, people will easily admire and like you. Reflect on what you like and what you dislike about yourself. Take note of your assets and positive aspects. Develop an attitude that will be impressive to others. In augmenting your personality, this aspect is way more challenging than boosting the physical appearance.
It is important to learn to admit your weaknesses and flaws and then do something to correct them. Never tell yourself that this is all that you are and you cannot do anything about yourself anymore. There is always a chance to change if you are more than willing to go through it.
How to Develop Positive Personality
Every person has a unique personality that characterizes the totality of being an individual. Our personalities may be perceived by others as good or bad. People see you and think of you as having a bad personality if you tend not to socialize, you always seem grumpy and overly serious, you think more of pessimistic thoughts, and you do not look presentable with your manner of dressing. On the other hand, you are known to have a good personality if you have a cheerful disposition, you appear neat and well-groomed, and you have a desirable attitude.
Have a Positive Outlook in Life
Take a self-reflection of how you envision your life and the way you deal with life and people everyday. Do you think of consequences and failure when in a situation instead of thinking of ways and means on how to face it? Do you view life as pointless and useless because you cannot seem to find your purpose? If this is how you perceive life to be, it is time to change to a positive outlook.
Firstly, find out what you really want to happen with your life, your career, business, or relationship with other people. Know where you are going and what you love to do. Set personal goals to determine what you wish to attain. This will give you a sense of direction and determination. Of course, knowing how to achieve these goals is very important. You need to know what to do and if you need the help of other people to reach these goal..
Entertain Positive Thoughts
Having a generally positive outlook in life can also help develop positive thoughts. Keeping an optimistic mind also keeps one’s viewpoints positive. When you have set your goals, always keep telling yourself that you will achieve them and believe that you will. Trust that you can do the things you wish to attain, and believe in your capabilities to manifest them. This includes thinking of positive thoughts, visualizing them, and materializing those ambitions.
For example, if you desire to live an abundant life, picture yourself out in a lavish and wealthy living. Focus on that goal and work for it. Of course, it will not be that easy to achieve it if you are only stuck with your thoughts. There has to be an action plan to make your dreams come true.
Maintain a Positive Attitude
Keeping a positive attitude is another way to develop a positive personality. Build your level of courtesy toward others. Show consideration and respect for them by giving a warm smile, saying ‘thank you’ to show appreciation, and listening when someone is talking.
These are but just a few of the many ways to manifest courtesy. Also, be understanding and caring to other people’s needs. Everyone appreciates and admires a person who shows genuine understanding. It is a way of keeping good relationships with other people.
Be enthusiastic and show confidence in whatever you do. Someone who manifests enthusiasm can easily attain success. For example, if you take your work and the tasks assigned to you wholeheartedly and with eagerness, it will not be that difficult to accomplish whatever needs to be done since you have the passion to do it. Smile a lot rather than frown.A smile can make a big difference in a chaotic and complicated situation. A smile can be a cure for a broken relationship. A sincere smile shows that you hold no grudges against others.
Have a Positive Outlook in Life
Take a self-reflection of how you envision your life and the way you deal with life and people everyday. Do you think of consequences and failure when in a situation instead of thinking of ways and means on how to face it? Do you view life as pointless and useless because you cannot seem to find your purpose? If this is how you perceive life to be, it is time to change to a positive outlook.
Firstly, find out what you really want to happen with your life, your career, business, or relationship with other people. Know where you are going and what you love to do. Set personal goals to determine what you wish to attain. This will give you a sense of direction and determination. Of course, knowing how to achieve these goals is very important. You need to know what to do and if you need the help of other people to reach these goal..
Entertain Positive Thoughts
Having a generally positive outlook in life can also help develop positive thoughts. Keeping an optimistic mind also keeps one’s viewpoints positive. When you have set your goals, always keep telling yourself that you will achieve them and believe that you will. Trust that you can do the things you wish to attain, and believe in your capabilities to manifest them. This includes thinking of positive thoughts, visualizing them, and materializing those ambitions.
For example, if you desire to live an abundant life, picture yourself out in a lavish and wealthy living. Focus on that goal and work for it. Of course, it will not be that easy to achieve it if you are only stuck with your thoughts. There has to be an action plan to make your dreams come true.
Maintain a Positive Attitude
Keeping a positive attitude is another way to develop a positive personality. Build your level of courtesy toward others. Show consideration and respect for them by giving a warm smile, saying ‘thank you’ to show appreciation, and listening when someone is talking.
These are but just a few of the many ways to manifest courtesy. Also, be understanding and caring to other people’s needs. Everyone appreciates and admires a person who shows genuine understanding. It is a way of keeping good relationships with other people.
Be enthusiastic and show confidence in whatever you do. Someone who manifests enthusiasm can easily attain success. For example, if you take your work and the tasks assigned to you wholeheartedly and with eagerness, it will not be that difficult to accomplish whatever needs to be done since you have the passion to do it. Smile a lot rather than frown.A smile can make a big difference in a chaotic and complicated situation. A smile can be a cure for a broken relationship. A sincere smile shows that you hold no grudges against others.
Know Your Personality
How well do you know yourself? How well do your friends and other people know you? At times, we may think that we completely know our true selves but we may not realize that there are certain things about us that we are not aware of.
Did you ever experience being described by others as such when you think it is not you? We have a component of our personality called the unconscious that transcends our conscious self. So beyond our known personal identities, we manifest certain traits and characteristics that we barely recognize from within ourselves.
It is important to know your personality and get in touch with your real identity because your personality defines your character. Also, it is one of the reasons that people are easily able to achieve their goals in life and attain success. Understanding your true personality makes you a more satisfied and content individual in terms of appreciating life, your career, and relationships with people. In what ways can you determine your personality?
Did you ever experience being described by others as such when you think it is not you? We have a component of our personality called the unconscious that transcends our conscious self. So beyond our known personal identities, we manifest certain traits and characteristics that we barely recognize from within ourselves.
It is important to know your personality and get in touch with your real identity because your personality defines your character. Also, it is one of the reasons that people are easily able to achieve their goals in life and attain success. Understanding your true personality makes you a more satisfied and content individual in terms of appreciating life, your career, and relationships with people. In what ways can you determine your personality?
The Four Preferences of Individual Personality
Katharine Briggs, along with her daughter Isabel Briggs Myers, developed the four personality types of today based from Jung’s eight personality types. These are extroversion and introversion, sensing and intuition, thinking and feeling, and judging and perceiving.
Extroverts possess high energy and they talk more than listen. They prefer to be around people and they are more of the outgoing and enthusiastic type. Introverts, on the other hand, have a quiet energy and they prefer being on their own.
Sensors are pragmatic and practical people who have good common sense. Intuitives are more of the inventive type and trust their instincts more than experiences.
Thinkers are objective in making decisions and they prefer analytical, logical reasoning. They are reserved, but honest and fair. Feelers base their decisions on their feelings and values. They are warm and friendly people who deal with diplomacy and tact.
Extroverts possess high energy and they talk more than listen. They prefer to be around people and they are more of the outgoing and enthusiastic type. Introverts, on the other hand, have a quiet energy and they prefer being on their own.
Sensors are pragmatic and practical people who have good common sense. Intuitives are more of the inventive type and trust their instincts more than experiences.
Thinkers are objective in making decisions and they prefer analytical, logical reasoning. They are reserved, but honest and fair. Feelers base their decisions on their feelings and values. They are warm and friendly people who deal with diplomacy and tact.
Jung’s Eight Personality Types
Carl Jung believed that individuals each have different psychological types. According to him, we have two basic “functions” in our lives: knowing how to perceive things and how to make decisions. From these two types, we function differently through our senses or through our intuition. He firmly believes that all of these functions we apply them in our lives. However, we have varying ways in using these functions with different outcomes and amount of success.
But he created an order of preference for these varying functions wherein the frequently used function is the “dominant” one which can either be extraverted or introverted. He stressed that the dominant function is very important since it overshadows the rest of the functions in all of the eight personality types. The following are the eight personality types he created:
1. Extraverted Sensing
2. Introverted Sensing
3. Extraverted Intuition
4. Introverted Intuition
5. Extraverted Thinking
6. Introverted Thinking
7. Extraverted Feeling
8. Introverted Feeling
These types of personalities were further researched and studied by a mother and daughter tandem wherein they created a combination of the abovementioned personality types based on the four major preferences of individual personality.
But he created an order of preference for these varying functions wherein the frequently used function is the “dominant” one which can either be extraverted or introverted. He stressed that the dominant function is very important since it overshadows the rest of the functions in all of the eight personality types. The following are the eight personality types he created:
1. Extraverted Sensing
2. Introverted Sensing
3. Extraverted Intuition
4. Introverted Intuition
5. Extraverted Thinking
6. Introverted Thinking
7. Extraverted Feeling
8. Introverted Feeling
These types of personalities were further researched and studied by a mother and daughter tandem wherein they created a combination of the abovementioned personality types based on the four major preferences of individual personality.
Different Personality Types
Every human being is indeed unique and has different sets of individual traits and characteristics. Even twins are not completely the same with each other based on studies. We all possess different types of personalities yet we manage to understand each other and interact regardless of these differences. However, not all of us are aware of our individual personality types.
Hippocrates’ Theory of the Four Personality Types
A noted figure in the study of our personality is Hippocrates who theorized the four human temperaments to determine the differences in our personality. These are: the Sanguines, the Cholerics, the Melancholic, and the Phlegmatic. His theory is still very evident and relevant even after thousands of years of conducting this study.
The Sanguines are charming people and fun to be with because they have a good sense of humor. They are the life of the party and they make friends easily. They love to socialize and enjoy the company of people around them.
Choleric individuals are extroverts who take control of their lives and are task-oriented. They are strong-willed who love to take challenges, and opinionated people. They are born to be leaders and they have the motivation to reach for their goals.
A person with a Melancholy personality is quite a perfectionist and very organized. Melancholies are introverts who tend to be highly sensitive to others and are faithful to the point of self-sacrificing. They are very creative and talented people. However, they have tendencies to generate low self-esteem because of being judgmental of their own abilities.
Phlegmatic individuals are introverts who are more concerned with relationships with people. They are laid back, possessing low profile personality, but lovers of peace and calmness. They are easygoing and relaxed who can readily make friends because they are warm and friendly.
Hippocrates’ Theory of the Four Personality Types
A noted figure in the study of our personality is Hippocrates who theorized the four human temperaments to determine the differences in our personality. These are: the Sanguines, the Cholerics, the Melancholic, and the Phlegmatic. His theory is still very evident and relevant even after thousands of years of conducting this study.
The Sanguines are charming people and fun to be with because they have a good sense of humor. They are the life of the party and they make friends easily. They love to socialize and enjoy the company of people around them.
Choleric individuals are extroverts who take control of their lives and are task-oriented. They are strong-willed who love to take challenges, and opinionated people. They are born to be leaders and they have the motivation to reach for their goals.
A person with a Melancholy personality is quite a perfectionist and very organized. Melancholies are introverts who tend to be highly sensitive to others and are faithful to the point of self-sacrificing. They are very creative and talented people. However, they have tendencies to generate low self-esteem because of being judgmental of their own abilities.
Phlegmatic individuals are introverts who are more concerned with relationships with people. They are laid back, possessing low profile personality, but lovers of peace and calmness. They are easygoing and relaxed who can readily make friends because they are warm and friendly.
Fundamental Characteristics of Personality
Our personalities may be collectively characterized into four fundamental characteristics. First is that every individual’s personality manifests consistency. This means that we demonstrate a pattern of regularity or uniformity to our behaviors as recognized and identified by other people. In essence, we tend to act in similar ways and respond similarly to various situations.
Another characteristic of our personality is that it is psychological and physiological. A person’s character and identity is built up by the patterns of thoughts, feelings, and behavior. However, some researches would mention that biological aspect also affects or influences personality.
Our personalities are also said to be characterized by impact behaviors and actions. It causes us to take action or respond to various situations and experiences in certain ways aside from affecting how we act and react in certain situations.
The fourth characteristic of our personality is that it is demonstrated through multiple or various expressions. It is more than just a person’s attitude or behavior but also identified through patterns of thoughts, emotions, relationships, and interaction with other people
Another characteristic of our personality is that it is psychological and physiological. A person’s character and identity is built up by the patterns of thoughts, feelings, and behavior. However, some researches would mention that biological aspect also affects or influences personality.
Our personalities are also said to be characterized by impact behaviors and actions. It causes us to take action or respond to various situations and experiences in certain ways aside from affecting how we act and react in certain situations.
The fourth characteristic of our personality is that it is demonstrated through multiple or various expressions. It is more than just a person’s attitude or behavior but also identified through patterns of thoughts, emotions, relationships, and interaction with other people
Personality Defined
Personality is all about the most essential psychological aspects of a person’s life – our thoughts, feelings, motives, skills, and behaviors. The term is coined from the Latin word ‘persona’ meaning ‘mask’. This means that people put on a ‘mask’ that distinguishes them from the rest. We can choose to portray different personas which constitute to our personality but our inner selves have a greater representation of our true characters.
Every human being possesses a personality that defines our essence as individuals in every stage of development in our lives. It is what makes up a person and it is what makes us unique from each other. In other words, no two individuals have the same personalities and so you are being characterized by other people as to who you are and what you are to them based on your personality.
Every human being possesses a personality that defines our essence as individuals in every stage of development in our lives. It is what makes up a person and it is what makes us unique from each other. In other words, no two individuals have the same personalities and so you are being characterized by other people as to who you are and what you are to them based on your personality.
What is Personality?
Do you ever wonder why whenever we describe someone’s personality, we usually refer to the attitude and behavior? It is because our attitudes speak of our personality. But there is more to behavior and attitude that comprises a person’s character. Our emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical well-being all build up our so-called personality......
We become observant of the people around us and those we interact with and study each one’s personality. We usually describe another person’s personality as good or bad. When someone has a rude and unlikeable behavior, we say that the person possesses an undesirable personality. On the other hand, someone with a good heart and an admirable demeanor has a good personality.
When we speak of personality, we pertain to the person’s character, wholeness, or totality involving behavior, attitudes, qualities, and traits of an individual. It is, in fact, one of basic foundations of the study of psychology. There have been many definitions coined by psychologists about personality. Let us understand the general understanding of this concept and what involves it.
We become observant of the people around us and those we interact with and study each one’s personality. We usually describe another person’s personality as good or bad. When someone has a rude and unlikeable behavior, we say that the person possesses an undesirable personality. On the other hand, someone with a good heart and an admirable demeanor has a good personality.
When we speak of personality, we pertain to the person’s character, wholeness, or totality involving behavior, attitudes, qualities, and traits of an individual. It is, in fact, one of basic foundations of the study of psychology. There have been many definitions coined by psychologists about personality. Let us understand the general understanding of this concept and what involves it.
Sunday, July 11, 2010
Facial Expression
A facial expression results from one or more motions or positions of the muscles of the face. These movements convey the emotional state of the individual to observers. Facial expressions are a form of nonverbal communication. They are a primary means of conveying social information among humans, but also occur in most other mammals and some other animal species. Facial expressions and their significance in the perceiver can, to some extent, vary between cultures.
Humans can adopt a facial expression as a voluntary action. However, because expressions are closely tied to emotion, they are more often involuntary. It can be nearly impossible to avoid expressions for certain emotions, even when it would be strongly desirable to do so a person who is trying to avoid insult to an individual he or she finds highly unattractive might nevertheless show a brief expression of disgust before being able to reassume a neutral expression. The close link between emotion and expression can also work in the other direction; it has been observed that voluntarily assuming an expression can actually cause the associated emotion
Some expressions can be accurately interpreted even between members of different species- anger and extreme contentment being the primary examples. Others, however, are difficult to interpret even in familiar individuals. For instance, disgust and fear can be tough to tell apartBecause faces have only a limited range of movement, expressions rely upon fairly minuscule differences in the proportion and relative position of facial features, and reading them requires considerable sensitivity to same. Some faces are often falsely read as expressing some emotion, even when they are neutral, because their proportions naturally resemble those another face would temporarily assume when emoting
Eye contact
A person's face, especially their eyes, creates the most obvious and immediate cues that lead to the formation of impressions.This article discusses eyes and facial expressions and the effect they have on interpersonal communication.
A person's eyes reveal much about how they are feeling, or what they are thinking. Blink rate can reveal how nervous or at ease a person may be. Research by Boston College professor Joe Tecce suggests that stress levels are revealed by blink rates. He supports his data with statistics on the relation between the blink rates of presidential candidates and their success in their races. Tecce claims that the faster blinker in the presidential debates has lost every election since 1980. Though Tecce's data is interesting, it is important to recognize that non-verbal communication is multi-channeled, and focusing on only one aspect is reckless. Nervousness can also be measured by examining each candidates' perspiration, eye contact and stiffness.
Eye contact is another major aspect of facial communication. Some have hypothesized that this is due to infancy, as humans are one of the few mammals who maintain regular eye contact with their mother while nursing.Eye contact serves a variety of purposes. It regulates conversations, shows interest or involvement, and establishes a connection with others.
Eye contact regulates conversational turn taking, communicates involvement and interest, manifests warmth, and establishes connections with others…it can command attention, be flirtatious, or seem cold and intimidating… invites conversation. Lack of eye contact is usually perceived to be rude or inattentive.
But different cultures have different rules for eye contact. Certain Asian cultures can perceive direct eye contact as a way to signal competitiveness, which in many situations may prove to be inappropriate. Others lower their eyes to signal respect, and similarly eye contact is avoided in Nigeria, and between men and women in Islam however, in western cultures this could be misinterpreted as lacking self-confidence.
Even beyond the idea of eye contact, eyes communicate more data than a person even consciously expresses. Pupil dilation is a significant cue to a level of excitement, pleasure, or attraction. Dilated pupils indicate greater affection or attraction, while constricted pupils send a colder signal.
A person's eyes reveal much about how they are feeling, or what they are thinking. Blink rate can reveal how nervous or at ease a person may be. Research by Boston College professor Joe Tecce suggests that stress levels are revealed by blink rates. He supports his data with statistics on the relation between the blink rates of presidential candidates and their success in their races. Tecce claims that the faster blinker in the presidential debates has lost every election since 1980. Though Tecce's data is interesting, it is important to recognize that non-verbal communication is multi-channeled, and focusing on only one aspect is reckless. Nervousness can also be measured by examining each candidates' perspiration, eye contact and stiffness.
Eye contact is another major aspect of facial communication. Some have hypothesized that this is due to infancy, as humans are one of the few mammals who maintain regular eye contact with their mother while nursing.Eye contact serves a variety of purposes. It regulates conversations, shows interest or involvement, and establishes a connection with others.
Eye contact regulates conversational turn taking, communicates involvement and interest, manifests warmth, and establishes connections with others…it can command attention, be flirtatious, or seem cold and intimidating… invites conversation. Lack of eye contact is usually perceived to be rude or inattentive.
But different cultures have different rules for eye contact. Certain Asian cultures can perceive direct eye contact as a way to signal competitiveness, which in many situations may prove to be inappropriate. Others lower their eyes to signal respect, and similarly eye contact is avoided in Nigeria, and between men and women in Islam however, in western cultures this could be misinterpreted as lacking self-confidence.
Even beyond the idea of eye contact, eyes communicate more data than a person even consciously expresses. Pupil dilation is a significant cue to a level of excitement, pleasure, or attraction. Dilated pupils indicate greater affection or attraction, while constricted pupils send a colder signal.
Thursday, July 8, 2010
Understanding Different Interpretations of Common Gestures
Beckon with index finger.
Point at something in the room using index finger.
Make a "V" sign.
Smile.
Sit with sole of feet or shoe showing.
Form a circle with fingers to indicate “O.K.”
Pat a student on the head.
Pass an item to someone with one hand.
Wave hand with palm facing outward to greet someone.
Nod head up and down to say “Yes.”
Answer Key for Body Language Activities
Each of the following responses give a general guide to cultural differences in the meaning of gestures.
1. Beckon with index finger. This means “Come here” in the U.S. To motion with the index finger to call someone is insulting, or even obscene, in many cultures. Expect a reaction when you beckon to a student from the Middle or Far East; Portugal, Spain, Latin America, Japan, Indonesia and Hong Kong. It is more acceptable to beckon with the palm down, with fingers or whole hand waving.
2. Point at something in the room using index finger. It is impolite to point with the index finger in the Middle and Far East. Use an open hand or your thumb (in Indonesia)
3. Make a "V" sign. This means "Victory" in most of Europe when you make this sign with your palm facing away from you. If you face your palm in, the same gesture means "Shove it."
4. Smile. This gesture is universally understood. However, it various cultures there are different reasons for smiling. The Japanese may smile when they are confused or angry. In other parts of Asia, people may smile when they are embarrassed. People in other cultures may not smile at everyone to indicate a friendly greeting as we do in the United States. A smile may be reserved for friends. It is important not to judge students or their parents because they do not smile, or smile at what we would consider "inappropriate" times.
5. Sit with soles shoes showing. In many cultures this sends a rude message. In Thailand, Japan and France as well as countries of the Middle and Near East showing the soles of the feet demonstrates disrespect. You are exposing the lowest and dirtiest part of your body so this is insulting.
6. Form a circle with fingers to indicate “O.K.” Although this means “O.K.” in the U.S. and in many countries around the world, there are some notable exceptions:
In Brazil and Germany, this gesture is obscene.
In Japan, this means “money.”
In France, it has the additional meaning of “zero” or “worthless.”
7. Pat a student on the head. This is very upsetting to students from Asia. The head is the repository of the soul in the Buddhist religion. Children from cultures which are influenced by Buddhism will feel uncomfortable if their head is touched.
8. Pass an item to someone with one hand. - In Japan this is very rude. Even a very small item such as a pencil must be passed with two hands. In many Middle and Far Eastern countries it is rude to pass something with your left hand which is considered “unclean.”
9. Wave hand with the palm facing outward to greet someone. In Europe, waving the hand back and forth can mean “No.” To wave “good-bye,” raise the palm outward and wag the fingers in unison, This is also a serious insult in Nigeria if the hand is too close to another person’s face.
10. Nod head up and down to say “Yes.” In Bulgaria and Greece, this gesture means “No.”
Point at something in the room using index finger.
Make a "V" sign.
Smile.
Sit with sole of feet or shoe showing.
Form a circle with fingers to indicate “O.K.”
Pat a student on the head.
Pass an item to someone with one hand.
Wave hand with palm facing outward to greet someone.
Nod head up and down to say “Yes.”
Answer Key for Body Language Activities
Each of the following responses give a general guide to cultural differences in the meaning of gestures.
1. Beckon with index finger. This means “Come here” in the U.S. To motion with the index finger to call someone is insulting, or even obscene, in many cultures. Expect a reaction when you beckon to a student from the Middle or Far East; Portugal, Spain, Latin America, Japan, Indonesia and Hong Kong. It is more acceptable to beckon with the palm down, with fingers or whole hand waving.
2. Point at something in the room using index finger. It is impolite to point with the index finger in the Middle and Far East. Use an open hand or your thumb (in Indonesia)
3. Make a "V" sign. This means "Victory" in most of Europe when you make this sign with your palm facing away from you. If you face your palm in, the same gesture means "Shove it."
4. Smile. This gesture is universally understood. However, it various cultures there are different reasons for smiling. The Japanese may smile when they are confused or angry. In other parts of Asia, people may smile when they are embarrassed. People in other cultures may not smile at everyone to indicate a friendly greeting as we do in the United States. A smile may be reserved for friends. It is important not to judge students or their parents because they do not smile, or smile at what we would consider "inappropriate" times.
5. Sit with soles shoes showing. In many cultures this sends a rude message. In Thailand, Japan and France as well as countries of the Middle and Near East showing the soles of the feet demonstrates disrespect. You are exposing the lowest and dirtiest part of your body so this is insulting.
6. Form a circle with fingers to indicate “O.K.” Although this means “O.K.” in the U.S. and in many countries around the world, there are some notable exceptions:
In Brazil and Germany, this gesture is obscene.
In Japan, this means “money.”
In France, it has the additional meaning of “zero” or “worthless.”
7. Pat a student on the head. This is very upsetting to students from Asia. The head is the repository of the soul in the Buddhist religion. Children from cultures which are influenced by Buddhism will feel uncomfortable if their head is touched.
8. Pass an item to someone with one hand. - In Japan this is very rude. Even a very small item such as a pencil must be passed with two hands. In many Middle and Far Eastern countries it is rude to pass something with your left hand which is considered “unclean.”
9. Wave hand with the palm facing outward to greet someone. In Europe, waving the hand back and forth can mean “No.” To wave “good-bye,” raise the palm outward and wag the fingers in unison, This is also a serious insult in Nigeria if the hand is too close to another person’s face.
10. Nod head up and down to say “Yes.” In Bulgaria and Greece, this gesture means “No.”
Basic Sitting Postures With Benefits
JANU SIRSASANA: Correct foot placement
Sit up straight with legs evenly extended in front. Bend the right leg at the knee and place the foot so that the heel is in the right groin and the front of the foot touches the left thigh. Turn the foot so that the bottom of the foot is facing upward and press the knee back to form an obtuse angle with the body. This position will be difficult at first; don't force it. Put a folded blanket under the knee and also under the hips. Gradually the knee will move farther back. Just keep the foot correctly positioned.
JANU SIRSASANA: Correct, perfect postureHaving positioned the foot and knee correctly, stretch the left leg out, keeping the leg firmly on the mat. Settle the heel firmly and stretch the toes up. (The heel should pull gently away from the ankle.) Now inhale and bend forward over the straight leg, catching the foot with both hands if possible. Beginners should bend only as far as they can without rounding the back. When this posture is done correctly and completely, the body will roll forward over the extended leg, absolutely flat from the tail bone to the head. Stay there breathing normally for as long as you can. Inhale, release the handhold, come up smoothly, straighten the bent leg and relax. Repeat on other side.
JANU SIRSASANA: Wrong posture
The heel is not positioned against its own thigh. The knee has not been pushed back as far as possible to form an obtuse angle. The back is humped and curved because the pelvis is jammed and unable to lift properly. Instead of a smooth, complete stretching of the spine, the lumbar is over-stretched and the rest of the spine constricted. The left leg is not flat on the floor.
TRIANG MUKHAIPADA PASCHIMOTTANASANA: Sitting, forward-bending pose over one leg
This posture generally follows the previous one. Sit with your legs stretched in front. Bend the right leg so that the right foot is near the right hip. The toes should point back. The right calf presses against the right thigh. The body will tilt in this position so put a small folded towel under the left buttock to keep the hips level and the forward stretch even and extended. Hold the left foot with both hands, inhale and bend forward, keeping both knees together as you stretch forward over the straight leg. Many students will find it difficult in this position to even take hold of the foot of the outstretched leg. Do not despair. Just hold the knee, shin or ankle, and sit, breathing deeply, in whichever position represents your best extension. If the back is tight and the spine inflexible, this will take time. Release the hold and straighten the bent leg. Repeat on the other side.
Sit up straight with legs evenly extended in front. Bend the right leg at the knee and place the foot so that the heel is in the right groin and the front of the foot touches the left thigh. Turn the foot so that the bottom of the foot is facing upward and press the knee back to form an obtuse angle with the body. This position will be difficult at first; don't force it. Put a folded blanket under the knee and also under the hips. Gradually the knee will move farther back. Just keep the foot correctly positioned.
JANU SIRSASANA: Correct, perfect postureHaving positioned the foot and knee correctly, stretch the left leg out, keeping the leg firmly on the mat. Settle the heel firmly and stretch the toes up. (The heel should pull gently away from the ankle.) Now inhale and bend forward over the straight leg, catching the foot with both hands if possible. Beginners should bend only as far as they can without rounding the back. When this posture is done correctly and completely, the body will roll forward over the extended leg, absolutely flat from the tail bone to the head. Stay there breathing normally for as long as you can. Inhale, release the handhold, come up smoothly, straighten the bent leg and relax. Repeat on other side.
JANU SIRSASANA: Wrong posture
The heel is not positioned against its own thigh. The knee has not been pushed back as far as possible to form an obtuse angle. The back is humped and curved because the pelvis is jammed and unable to lift properly. Instead of a smooth, complete stretching of the spine, the lumbar is over-stretched and the rest of the spine constricted. The left leg is not flat on the floor.
TRIANG MUKHAIPADA PASCHIMOTTANASANA: Sitting, forward-bending pose over one leg
This posture generally follows the previous one. Sit with your legs stretched in front. Bend the right leg so that the right foot is near the right hip. The toes should point back. The right calf presses against the right thigh. The body will tilt in this position so put a small folded towel under the left buttock to keep the hips level and the forward stretch even and extended. Hold the left foot with both hands, inhale and bend forward, keeping both knees together as you stretch forward over the straight leg. Many students will find it difficult in this position to even take hold of the foot of the outstretched leg. Do not despair. Just hold the knee, shin or ankle, and sit, breathing deeply, in whichever position represents your best extension. If the back is tight and the spine inflexible, this will take time. Release the hold and straighten the bent leg. Repeat on the other side.
The relation between verbal and nonverbal communication
The relative importance of verbal and nonverbal communication
An interesting question is: When two people are communicating face-to-face, how much of the meaning is communicated verbally, and how much is communicated non-verbally? This was investigated by Albert Mehrabian and reported in two papers [15],[16]. The latter paper concluded: "It is suggested that the combined effect of simultaneous verbal, vocal, and facial attitude communications is a weighted sum of their independent effects - with coefficients of .07, .38, and .55, respectively." This "rule" that clues from spoken words, from the voice tone, and from the facial expression, contribute 7 %, 38 %, and 55 % respectively to the total meaning, is widely cited. It is presented on all types of popular courses with statements like "scientists have found out that . . . ". In reality, however, it is extremely weakly founded. First, it is based on the judgment of the meaning of single taperecorded words, i.e. a very artificial context. Second, the figures are obtained by combining results from two different studies which potentially cannot be combined. Third, it relates only to the communication of positive versus negative emotions. Fourth, it relates only to women, as men did not participate in the study.
Since then, other studies have analysed the relative contribution of verbal and nonverbal signals under more naturalistic situations. Argyle [11] , using video tapes shown to the subjects, analysed the communication of submissive/dominant attitude and found that non-verbal cues had 4.3 times the effect of verbal cues. The most important effect was that body posture communicated superior status in a very efficient way. On the other hand, a study by Hsee et al.[17] had subjects judge a person on the dimension happy/sad and found that words spoken with minimal variation in intonation had an impact about 4 times larger than face expressions seen in a film without sound. Thus, the relative importance of spoken words and facial expressions may be very different in studies using different set-ups.
Interaction of verbal and nonverbal communication
When communicating, nonverbal messages can interact with verbal messages in six ways: repeating, conflicting, complementing, substituting, regulating and accenting/moderating.
Repeating
"Repeating" consists of using gestures to strengthen a verbal message, such as pointing to the object of discussion
Conflicting
Verbal and nonverbal messages within the same interaction can sometimes send opposing or conflicting messages. A person verbally expressing a statement of truth while simultaneously fidgeting or avoiding eye contact may convey a mixed message to the receiver in the interaction. Conflicting messages may occur for a variety of reasons often stemming from feelings of uncertainty, ambivalence, or frustration. When mixed messages occur, nonverbal communication becomes the primary tool people use to attain additional information to clarify the situation; great attention is placed on bodily movements and positioning when people perceive mixed messages during interactions.
Complementing
Accurate interpretation of messages is made easier when nonverbal and verbal communication complement each other. Nonverbal cues can be used to elaborate on verbal messages to reinforce the information sent when trying to achieve communicative goals; messages have been shown to be remembered better when nonverbal signals affirm the verbal exchange.
Substituting
Nonverbal behavior is sometimes used as the sole channel for communication of a message. People learn to identify facial expressions, body movements, and body positioning as corresponding with specific feelings and intentions. Nonverbal signals can be used without verbal communication to convey messages; when nonverbal behavior does not effectively communicate a message, verbal methods are used to enhance understanding.
Regulating
Nonverbal behavior also regulates our conversations. For example, touching someone's arm can signal that you want to talk next or interrupt.
Accenting/Moderating
Nonverbal signals are used to alter the interpretation of verbal messages. Touch, voice pitch, and gestures are some of the tools people use to accent or amplify the message that is sent; nonverbal behavior can also be used to moderate or tone down aspects of verbal messages as well For example, a person who is verbally expressing anger may accent the verbal message by shaking a fist....
An interesting question is: When two people are communicating face-to-face, how much of the meaning is communicated verbally, and how much is communicated non-verbally? This was investigated by Albert Mehrabian and reported in two papers [15],[16]. The latter paper concluded: "It is suggested that the combined effect of simultaneous verbal, vocal, and facial attitude communications is a weighted sum of their independent effects - with coefficients of .07, .38, and .55, respectively." This "rule" that clues from spoken words, from the voice tone, and from the facial expression, contribute 7 %, 38 %, and 55 % respectively to the total meaning, is widely cited. It is presented on all types of popular courses with statements like "scientists have found out that . . . ". In reality, however, it is extremely weakly founded. First, it is based on the judgment of the meaning of single taperecorded words, i.e. a very artificial context. Second, the figures are obtained by combining results from two different studies which potentially cannot be combined. Third, it relates only to the communication of positive versus negative emotions. Fourth, it relates only to women, as men did not participate in the study.
Since then, other studies have analysed the relative contribution of verbal and nonverbal signals under more naturalistic situations. Argyle [11] , using video tapes shown to the subjects, analysed the communication of submissive/dominant attitude and found that non-verbal cues had 4.3 times the effect of verbal cues. The most important effect was that body posture communicated superior status in a very efficient way. On the other hand, a study by Hsee et al.[17] had subjects judge a person on the dimension happy/sad and found that words spoken with minimal variation in intonation had an impact about 4 times larger than face expressions seen in a film without sound. Thus, the relative importance of spoken words and facial expressions may be very different in studies using different set-ups.
Interaction of verbal and nonverbal communication
When communicating, nonverbal messages can interact with verbal messages in six ways: repeating, conflicting, complementing, substituting, regulating and accenting/moderating.
Repeating
"Repeating" consists of using gestures to strengthen a verbal message, such as pointing to the object of discussion
Conflicting
Verbal and nonverbal messages within the same interaction can sometimes send opposing or conflicting messages. A person verbally expressing a statement of truth while simultaneously fidgeting or avoiding eye contact may convey a mixed message to the receiver in the interaction. Conflicting messages may occur for a variety of reasons often stemming from feelings of uncertainty, ambivalence, or frustration. When mixed messages occur, nonverbal communication becomes the primary tool people use to attain additional information to clarify the situation; great attention is placed on bodily movements and positioning when people perceive mixed messages during interactions.
Complementing
Accurate interpretation of messages is made easier when nonverbal and verbal communication complement each other. Nonverbal cues can be used to elaborate on verbal messages to reinforce the information sent when trying to achieve communicative goals; messages have been shown to be remembered better when nonverbal signals affirm the verbal exchange.
Substituting
Nonverbal behavior is sometimes used as the sole channel for communication of a message. People learn to identify facial expressions, body movements, and body positioning as corresponding with specific feelings and intentions. Nonverbal signals can be used without verbal communication to convey messages; when nonverbal behavior does not effectively communicate a message, verbal methods are used to enhance understanding.
Regulating
Nonverbal behavior also regulates our conversations. For example, touching someone's arm can signal that you want to talk next or interrupt.
Accenting/Moderating
Nonverbal signals are used to alter the interpretation of verbal messages. Touch, voice pitch, and gestures are some of the tools people use to accent or amplify the message that is sent; nonverbal behavior can also be used to moderate or tone down aspects of verbal messages as well For example, a person who is verbally expressing anger may accent the verbal message by shaking a fist....
Touching In Communication
touching in communication
A high five is an example of communicative touch.Haptics is the study of touching as nonverbal communication. Touches that can be defined as communication include handshakes, holding hands, kissing (cheek, lips, hand), back slapping, high fives, a pat on the shoulder, and brushing an arm. Touching of oneself may include licking, picking, holding, and scratching.[7] These behaviors are referred to as "adaptor" and may send messages that reveal the intentions or feelings of a communicator. The meaning conveyed from touch is highly dependent upon the context of the situation, the relationship between communicators, and the manner of touch.[8]
Humans communicate interpersonal closeness through a series of non-verbal actions known as immediacy behaviors. Examples of immediacy behaviors are: smiling, touching,open body positions, and eye contact. Cultures that display these immediacy behaviors are known to be high contact cultures.
Haptic communication is the means by which people and other animals communicate via touching. Touch is an extremely important sense for humans; as well as providing information about surfaces and textures it is a component of nonverbal communication in interpersonal relationships, and vital in conveying physical intimacy. It can be both sexual (such as kissing) and platonic (such as hugging or tickling).
Touch is the earliest sense to develop in the fetus. The development of an infant's haptic senses and how it relates to the development of the other senses such as vision has been the target of much research. Human babies have been observed to have enormous difficulty surviving if they do not possess a sense of touch, even if they retain sight and hearing. Babies who can perceive through touch, even without sight and hearing, tend to fare much better. Touch can be thought of as a basic sense in that most life forms have a response to being touched, while only a subset have sight and hearing.[citation needed]
In chimpanzees the sense of touch is highly developed. As newborns they see and hear poorly but cling strongly to their mothers. Harry Harlow conducted a controversial study involving rhesus monkeys and observed that monkeys reared with a "terry cloth mother", a wire feeding apparatus wrapped in softer terry cloth which provided a level of tactile stimulation and comfort, were considerably more emotionally stable as adults than those with a mere wire mother.(Harlow,1958)
Touching is treated differently from one country to another. Socially acceptable levels of touching varies from one culture to another. In the Thai culture, touching someone's head may be thought rude. Remland and Jones (1995) studied groups of people communicating and found that in England (8%), France (5%) and the Netherlands (4%) touching was rare compared to their Italian (14%) and Greek (12.5%) sample.[citation needed]
Striking, pushing, pulling, pinching, kicking, strangling and hand-to-hand fighting are forms of touch in the context of physical abuse. In a sentence like "I never touched him/her" or "Don't you dare to touch him/her" the term touch may be meant as euphemism for either physical abuse or sexual touching. To 'touch oneself' is a euphemism for masturbation.
The word touch has many other metaphorical uses. One can be emotionally touched, referring to an action or object that evokes an emotional response. To say "I was touched by your letter" implies the reader felt a strong emotion when reading it. Usually does not include anger, disgust or other forms of emotional rejection unless used in a sarcastic manner.
A high five is an example of communicative touch.Haptics is the study of touching as nonverbal communication. Touches that can be defined as communication include handshakes, holding hands, kissing (cheek, lips, hand), back slapping, high fives, a pat on the shoulder, and brushing an arm. Touching of oneself may include licking, picking, holding, and scratching.[7] These behaviors are referred to as "adaptor" and may send messages that reveal the intentions or feelings of a communicator. The meaning conveyed from touch is highly dependent upon the context of the situation, the relationship between communicators, and the manner of touch.[8]
Humans communicate interpersonal closeness through a series of non-verbal actions known as immediacy behaviors. Examples of immediacy behaviors are: smiling, touching,open body positions, and eye contact. Cultures that display these immediacy behaviors are known to be high contact cultures.
Haptic communication is the means by which people and other animals communicate via touching. Touch is an extremely important sense for humans; as well as providing information about surfaces and textures it is a component of nonverbal communication in interpersonal relationships, and vital in conveying physical intimacy. It can be both sexual (such as kissing) and platonic (such as hugging or tickling).
Touch is the earliest sense to develop in the fetus. The development of an infant's haptic senses and how it relates to the development of the other senses such as vision has been the target of much research. Human babies have been observed to have enormous difficulty surviving if they do not possess a sense of touch, even if they retain sight and hearing. Babies who can perceive through touch, even without sight and hearing, tend to fare much better. Touch can be thought of as a basic sense in that most life forms have a response to being touched, while only a subset have sight and hearing.[citation needed]
In chimpanzees the sense of touch is highly developed. As newborns they see and hear poorly but cling strongly to their mothers. Harry Harlow conducted a controversial study involving rhesus monkeys and observed that monkeys reared with a "terry cloth mother", a wire feeding apparatus wrapped in softer terry cloth which provided a level of tactile stimulation and comfort, were considerably more emotionally stable as adults than those with a mere wire mother.(Harlow,1958)
Touching is treated differently from one country to another. Socially acceptable levels of touching varies from one culture to another. In the Thai culture, touching someone's head may be thought rude. Remland and Jones (1995) studied groups of people communicating and found that in England (8%), France (5%) and the Netherlands (4%) touching was rare compared to their Italian (14%) and Greek (12.5%) sample.[citation needed]
Striking, pushing, pulling, pinching, kicking, strangling and hand-to-hand fighting are forms of touch in the context of physical abuse. In a sentence like "I never touched him/her" or "Don't you dare to touch him/her" the term touch may be meant as euphemism for either physical abuse or sexual touching. To 'touch oneself' is a euphemism for masturbation.
The word touch has many other metaphorical uses. One can be emotionally touched, referring to an action or object that evokes an emotional response. To say "I was touched by your letter" implies the reader felt a strong emotion when reading it. Usually does not include anger, disgust or other forms of emotional rejection unless used in a sarcastic manner.
Gestures
A gesture is a non-vocal bodily movement intended to express meaning. They may be articulated with the hands, arms or body, and also include movements of the head, face and eyes, such as winking, nodding, or rolling ones' eyes. The boundary between language and gesture, or verbal and nonverbal communication, can be hard to identify.
Although the study of gesture is still in its infancy, some broad categories of gestures have been identified by researchers. The most familiar are the so-called emblems or quotable gestures. These are conventional, culture-specific gestures that can be used as replacement for words, such as the handwave used in the US for "hello" and "goodbye". A single emblematic gesture can have a very different significance in different cultural contexts, ranging from complimentary to highly offensive [9] The page List of gestures discusses emblematic gestures made with one hand, two hands, hand and other body parts, and body and facial gestures.
Another broad category of gestures comprises those gestures used spontaneously when we speak. These gestures are closely coordinated with speech. The so-called beat gestures are used in conjunction with speech and keep time with the rhythm of speech to emphasize certain words or phrases. These types of gestures are integrally connected to speech and thought processes.[10] Other spontaneous gestures used when we speak are more contentful and may echo or elaborate the meaning of the co-occurring speech.For example, a gesture that depicts the act of throwing may be synchronous with the utterance, "He threw the ball right into the window." [10]
Gestural languages such as American Sign Language and its regional siblings operate as complete natural languages that are gestural in modality. They should not be confused with finger spelling, in which a set of emblematic gestures are used to represent a written alphabet.
Gestures can also be categorised as either speech-independent or speech-related. Speech-independent gestures are dependent upon culturally accepted interpretation and have a direct verbal translation.[7] A wave hello or a peace sign are examples of speech-independent gestures. Speech related gestures are used in parallel with verbal speech; this form of nonverbal communication is used to emphasize the message that is being communicated. Speech related gestures are intended to provide supplemental information to a verbal message such as pointing to an object of discussion.
Gestures such as Mudra (Sanskrit) encode sophisticated information accessible to initiates that are privy to the subtlety of elements encoded in their tradition.
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